"COMMITMENT PHOBIA"

Everytime I hear this word I feel like kicking and screaming. What do these two words really mean? Some time ago I was told that I am a commitment phobic person too. Might be possible, just have never thought about it in that way. People say that if a person is scared at the thought of marriage, or is scared that the relationship s/he is going to get into will choke him/her and take the freedom away, then s/he is a commitment phobic person.

Well the situation does not look too good when it is reversed. I have always been scared that the guy I date might be Mr. Wrong. I always looked at his flaws rather than all of his qualities. It was always the fear that he might break my heart and I will be left weeping and crying all by myself. Always feared and always cautious of what might happen.

All of a sudden the roles changed and I was distraught. What I feared DID happen. He left me alone. Well not really alone, but he claimed that the commitment phobia that he had did not let him get into a relationship. So what is the thing between us? I dont understand. I have never really considered myself a commitment phobic, just a bit cautious. And now when I see a person so like me, a person who has the same views and who thinks just like me, I am scared to death.

Thinking about getting married some day always gave me cold feet, and when he says the same, I am scared of what might be! When he says that he is amazed about how he can stay with 1 person all his life, my worse fear comes true (though I have the same feelings poking at my heart). We are so much alike but so far apart from each other. I always knew what I wanted, but now when I see myself in this deep pit with no way out, I am getting claustrophobic and do not know how to handle the situation.

What is the answer? Is there anything called "commitment phobia"? Or does the brain make the heart believe that in no way can it feel belongingness with anyone? I keep looking for a beam of light to enter into the pit, but am afraid that in the long wait for the ray I might lose 'him'-- the main essence of my dilemma!

Anj,
lets c .

Captain O' Captain.. is 100% right.

matrix as always is eloquent and [ i barely understand what matrix writes.. Rose is way above my understanding level (o: 2 complex]

If a relationship is based on satiation of one individual's motive [ whatever it might be] then it is never gonna work and wounded ones are gonna be fear of commitment in future. <<<=== my 2 cents



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but what do i know.....

So thapa did you get the # and called her ? ;D Chito tell I am nosy hehe.

One a note of levity , don't forget to take your blackberries and Pocket PCs :)

"Live from the world news headquarters of Sajha Broadcasting Corporation, this is the Up-To-The-Minute show. Tonight, an extraordinary story about two Sajhapur citizens who met on a Sajha thread and ended up at Starbucks. Live on the scene, we have our Senior Committment correspondent ..... "

and some camcorders too..lets hope we have a ball..hahha..otherwise i'll have to rewind ..and then fast forward...hehehehehhe..happy fourth of july to ya'll

cap haddock and rose, news for you....i think the coffee's going sour time to rewind..sorry guys..me just li'l too vain..ooopsy..help me out..he's like mohammed atta..from my msn..damn ..sob soob..lol

there's goes my committed coffee

Sorry to hear that. We were getting ready to see the sparks fly. Oh well, will have to settle for the one over the Charles I guess. Starts at 10 I think.

Happy 4th.

hush p,
la la .. ur .. flight is also like the 911.. crash and burn.. be4 it started (o:

i wanted a cappuccino..... daymn.........
u should be a sport okey... at least buy me a grande..

matrix,
i answered u right.. (o:
verify.. hush.. I DO LOOK LIKE MOHAMMED ATTA right? u have seen me (o:

captain,
can i join u for the firework. i need a place to crash (o:
btw, i would luv to meet u as well.. next week ....

hush..,
still on for cappucino. U HAVE 2 BUY REMEMBER. then u can run as far as you want (o:

Haven't had chance to go thru all of it ( I'll pachi :) ), but whatever I managed ahile, just reminded me of a phrase I heard somewhere.

"Becareful of what you wish; it might just come true." End quote.;)

IndisGuise:)

Anj nice going on!

ईण्डि,
"Becareful of what you wish; it might just come true." End quote.;)
किन यस्तोफुर्न थाल्या हो?
रुइना खोई भुन्या?

Hush, I dont care about his looks, find out about his voice. Common talk to him dammit. :D

thapap, I have seen you re ? when ? :P

end of the story...history

Dada,
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Lau jaaa. Thapap, before you managed to work with your Geography, the cruel History managed to gormandize you ho? :(. My empathy - for both of you;).

On behalf of our sajhaities, I humbly request the princess of delusion AKA HP, to think about the proposal yet again. :p. Although the agreement was not that of a complaince nature, but neverthless were in light of the standing evidence here in sajha, you are still legally bound by it. Failing to which you shall be prosecuted by the sajha law under the section Sajha act 420, " Penalty of non-compliance".

Aiight enough now. But seriously, wot happened? LOL. ;)
Hahahahahha.

In jest,
IndisGuise:)

Hhaha.. cant believe its been more than a month that I posted this. I wonder why life passes by so quick! And I didnt even know that there were so many postings in here. Hehe mero committment phobia almost got two people committed in here. LOL... seems like I should be majoring on reverse psychology. Anyway just popping in and seeing what was happening. So HP.. how did the date go? :D

And InDisguise...
Becareful of what you wish; it might just come true." End quote.;)
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What if I did want it to come true ;).

Dada Giri I am sorry but my computer does not allow me to see the nepali font could not understand what you wrote :(.

Martixrose.. Not interested in talking anymore;)

I feel ya. ;) All will be oki, give me give, give me sweet little smile. :D

And InDisguise...
Becareful of what you wish; it might just come true." End quote.;)
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What if I did want it to come true ;).
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--> Then , I would have to say, " If only wishes were horses......," Anj babe ;).

In Jest,
Indisguise:)

So how did the date go Thapap and Hushpuppy? what base did u guys get to.

Welcome back ANJ...
Hope to see ur poems soon..:)
Nirman