Friends,

I am sharing my friend’s problem. My friend has a girlfriend who is 3 years older than him. It’s been really a long time they are in a relationship.  Now they want to get married but family is becoming an obstacle. They don’t want him to marry someone who is older than him. They have an opinion that this relationship won’t last longer and won’t work out. There should be an age difference between him and the girl. He is the only child and his parents are also threatening him that they will cut all the connection with him if he goes against them. He was too sad, somewhat disturb. He came to me asking for suggestion and support. I don’t know what to say, even though I fully support him. Guys what do you say? Does Age Difference Really Matter?

It should not be a problem if these two person are happy

That was one of the most dumb question, cause there is no definate single right answer to it. And, I am sure that you also know that very well.

Good or bad relationship totally depends on your fren and his girlfriend.  If their relationship works then age really doesn't matter . If  relationship doesn't work then age does matter. How to know unless they jump into it ????

But, since age is not only the SOLE factor that plays in a relationship, your question is very vague and general probably nobody can come up with definate answer to it.

But in Nepali context, one thing I know is life expectancy for female is higher than for male. Again, generally speaking on that basis, they can enjoy longer life together at least.

Prapta

your friends parents have logic issue here.. 3 years is not 13 or 30 years difference... 3 years is nothing at all.. The girl was still a baby when your friend was born..

Tell your friend that he is the one who will be living with his wife forever and not his parents...  they had their good relationship with each other and now why they are being obstacle in their son's married life with the person he loves..

Nepali parents try to be selfish;.. grow up parents... happiness of your kid is happiness of you both old ppl...

 

your friends parents have logic issue here.. 3 years is not 13 or 30 years difference... 3 years is nothing at all.. The girl was still a baby when your friend was born..

Tell your friend that he is the one who will be living with his wife forever and not his parents...  they had their good relationship with each other and now why they are being obstacle in their son's married life with the person he loves..

Nepali parents try to be selfish;.. grow up parents... happiness of your kid is happiness of you both old ppl...

 

The problem is not your friend's GF's age difference with your friend, but is with your friend's parents old conservative mentality.

Dude,

Tell your friend to be brave and stand up for himself, parents are parents, obviously they will be angry and threaten at the start if u go against their wishes but sooner or later they will come round and accept it.  His parents will later see how happy she makes him and forget the age difference totally especially once he has a kid, i cant imagine any grandparent rejecting their grandchild... can u?

Life is too short and precious to live by someone else's narrow minded views, if she is the right one for him, and she is worth it all then he shouldn't even hesitate to marry her!

Let us know what he decides!  ;o)

- Chakra

First, Tell your friend to give an example of Mahatma Gandhi to his parents.

Second, since he is the only son,sooner or later they will accept him

Third,everythings is in good relation before marriage, after marriage ego problems start too much. in that case don't go back to parents.

good luck for yr friend

 

It's really a serious matter to deal with if you are facing the probem. It's quite easy to blame parents being conservative or tell someone's  what to do ..!

First thing, got to keep in mind that most of the married life ends in 7 years time in US. So how much do you guys love each other. Does the word 'selfish' come between you by any chance?  Is your relationship based on sex/attractions/ just needs each other / or else ..... ?

If your answer is guninue of living together and sacrificying each other rest of the life ? You duty is to find out how strong your relationship is or not .. ? Are you sure that you decision is the best for you ? Do you think your relationship will be the best relationship for your life ? Do you think you would never get LOVE n be loved like with her ..? If so then make a decision of your life to live with her hjeartily.

Then comes parents. It's not that difficult once you make your decision. You have made a decision to live with her rest of your life and you are sure of it...! Now parent are right on their side. Coz being only son parents do have too much expectations ! What would your neighbour thing and say to you parents ? your parents have done so much for your life that they don't have anyone to look after except you .. ! What if you also turn your back to them ..! In extreme case they might felt of not worthy of brought you up/ educated you .. ! They can feel all their life efforts gone to vain ..! For it you must be able to win your parents hearts and minds .. ! If you are serious to marry her .. and she loves your without conditions .. ! You must be able to win your parents wishes ! I don't think your parents would go against you unless you won't take a right path. All you need to convince them and get blessings and wishes from them ... !

It may take few months or years but take a blessing from them ..! I'm sure if you are true to your heart i'm sure you will get what you deserve ..and a very happy life .. !

 

Wish you good luck ... !

Uncle Tom ..!