Many of us don't want to express our stresses that we have to bear in USA. May be our parents are proud for us to be in this country. But, the fact is we have no peace in mind. We are in search of peace and properity in life. We want to share our feelings. But there is no one to trust in. We have preserved so many feelings that we we want to talk about. But ther is no one to hear about it. To whom we can espress? The only way to get rid of it is by getting a couple of beers or cigarrettes. We tried a lot forgetting everything in the past and present. But you know this is life. There is no except......

life in USA call hell

be happy guys, because you are in better situation as you always have the option of going back to Nepal at any time and discover peace if that is what you want. you guys have already experienced the lives abroad; so for you no more repent of being unable to see the lands of opportunities as compared to those living in Nepal and trying hard to escape from Nepal; they are uncertain about whether they will definitely be on the so-called lands of opportunities one day.

give up tha ambitions, learn to cope up wiht what you have, just develop hopes and make plans accordingly. You will be satisfied with what you have here.

jiban and randhir, I agree with you.

I am graduate Engineer with a lot of experience and very good academic background. My OPT is going to finish in a week without any job offer. I applied more than 1000 jobs till now. I was even fired in five days in a third class job in an Indian grocery shop recently. I worked hard, I am young and I was very honest. In another Indian gas station, they were giving me training for 12 days without money, I run away it's too much. I have my wife and child in Nepal, they wish to see USA, while I am already here for more than two years. I even could not invite my wife and child in my graduation because of my weak economical situation. I can not kill their desire and go back right now. Some of my relatives dream big and write me frequently. My credit cards have no money remaind, my hope in USA is becoming tiny !

While reading these postings I feel like you guys are writing down my feelings. So true........ But the good thing is there is always a hope for us. One day everything is going to be alright. And that hope is our beautiful country NEPAL.

Its interesting... I read all the posts. I am in Nepal and am not happy either. So chill out guys and have fun.

I have stopped worrying about things. Thats the way to go guys.

Yes,

Bagbhalu,

She is your GF not your WIFE for crying out loud. If she makes you cry and you feel like you will be happy with your parents, what are you waiting for? You will just have a 'break up' not a 'divorce'.

 

 

LIFE SUCK!!!!!!!. Thinking of the previous permanent job with all facilities in homeland. Quit, and came for further education, now it like yeta na uta……………………..

Been here for more than 5 yrs. Spent lot of money in GC banaune chakkar ma. Tired of finding jobs during OPT. Got extra degrees to maintain status. Finally got H1B through Dhoti Consultancy, no job so far. Have pressure to marry can’t do, without money diff to handle honey.  Lot of expectation back home, and friends. Neither can go back nor can stay here without stress……... .

I am in India Doing MBBS and life is even tougher here

So take it easy guys

It used to be kind of the fantasy to come to USA and do all the things that we  can  imagine. Even remember the day when my mom said why u r going to USA. --That is the land of oppurtunity. And time just went so fast--6 years. Got into hge loan and only paying back.

Felt like somebody's speaking from inside me. It is really tough, but isn't something pulling us all to stay in this situation. Moreover, isn't it a surprising, and obviously, misfortune that everyone's looking for someone to share something? Of course, sathiho, yaha kura garera ananda micha tara kura garne kohi hunna, right !! I've been feeling the same for more than 4 years now. Now, another tension is starting next month when my OPT starts. It's always one after another, never ending. But as "ctal" said, there's still hope, something that is letting you not to fall. You have your home back there, whenever you want to go, right !! Well, let's hope something good, something pleasing.

Same case here....

Stress, tension, work pressure, hired, fired, family, children, gf, .................NEVER ENDS...

always a battle between $$ and life..........time could be the solution...but it's not working out as we wish....we want to do this and that..but the things sometimes go other way.......

jaile ni darr......skool ma homework ko darr...exam ma pass hunna bhanne darr....

pass bhayo...visa nalagne darrr...

visa lagyo...paisa kamaudai padhna sakine ho ki haina..darrr...

paisa ali kamayiyo....bihe hune ho ki hoina......kt ramro payine/napayine darr

bhie bho..ghar kasari chalaune darr..

bachha bhayo bhane ta jhanai.........

$$ le sataunu satauncha.....

tara HOPE aajhai cha re jiudo.....harek kalo badal ma chandiko patalo ghe-ra huncha re....AASHA ko ghera...

 

-daum

Hey bhagwan !!! f1 re, cpt re, opt re, cap gap re, opt extension re, e-verify re, 90 days rule re, h1 re, lottery re, rfe re, consultancy re, contract re, bond re,  kati thokk hoo ????? 

Don't worry guys...you know the song  "If we'll make it through December, Everything's gonna be alright". Such was my case. Working full time in an indian restaurant, no professor willing to support me for 1 and half yrs. I was always biking my way to morning class hours in snow (nearly got unconsious because of extreme cold one time). Start to work on my assignments after 11 PM since had to work till 10:300 pm.

I made it through December. Looking at the starting situation and where i am right now, i think i have proved myself enough regarding my potential capabilities. I believe the labor you put will one day definately pay off.

"In Between the Difficulties Lies and Opportunity" - Albert Einstein

it is true that life sucks here in usa. but we should accept it as it is. life sucks everywhere if u dont have good income n goos friends circle. nepal is good to visit only when u visit there with 3 or 4 thausand dollars in ur pocket. when that is finished its same. if ur parents are struggling with money life is even worse in nepal. i went there for 2 months n money finished in a month...next month was like a hell for me. my parents dont have enough money to make me feel great. they can feed me but i cant get job there in such a short period.

we came here in usa to earn degree then to earn some money. everyone goes through stressful situation like social security, drivers lisence, 6$/hr job n college tuition, being in status, h1, then better job and so on. these r all like desire become want and want become need .

so we have to accept these stresses.

The life in US is very complex.

Looks like this Nepali video also gives teh same message..

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nrwLgn1kIqM&eurl=http://www.spiritualpub.com/my-short-film-home.php

 

Nepali Thita

I find stresses everywhere. Thanks guys for sharing feelings

कल्पना गर्ने र भोग्नु पर्ने नदिका दुई किनरा जस्तै हो ।

आजसम्म मैले एक जना पनि नेपाली भेटेको छैन जस्ले दु:ख पाए भनेर नेपाल फर्किएको । एदी कोही त्यसरी फर्कियो भने तेस्लाई यो उपसङ्या दीइन्छ " कुकुरलाई घ्यु न पचेको "

रह्यो कुरा "STRESS" जिम्बेबारी आफ्नो काधमा बोकेर आफ्नो उद्येस्य प्रप्तिमा जुटदा, अबस्यनै STRESS हुन्छ , यो कुरा अमेरिका गए पछी मात्र भुझ्नु भयो किनकी नेपाल हुँदा बाबुको लज आमाको होटेलमा राज गर्दा कहाँ हुन्छ STRESS मोजै मोज ,अझ घुर्क्याएर जापानी भट् भटे किनिदिएन भने घर छोडि दिने वा स्कुल नै नजाने घुर्की लगाउन पाउने हरुले STRESS केहो र कुन चराको नाम भनी सोध्लान .

All Sajhaits

Please have patience and keep working hard to get your goal. At least we are lucky that we came here to try hard. Millions of people in the world don't have this opportunity. I have sympathy with wisdom lover what happened with him. I have sympathy and best wishes with all those people who have talent and willing to make difference in their life.

My story was also not much different than you guys when I came here several years back. I had a relatively very good job but I came here to have good life for me and my family. Initialy for so many months I was cursing myself and to all those people who had helped me to come here (even to the counselor who gave me visa). After working two jobs with going school I completed my graduation. That amount of struggle I had never done in back home in my whole student life and carreer.

The real tension starts after graduation here. You have one year to get a job and be secured with H1 B or Greencard otherwise go back to Nepal, Go back to school or Be illegal. I chose shortcut to find job and H1 B (to bring my family here)--to go to Indian IT consultacy. Look what happened with me ....first year almost 6 months I did not get job. When I got the job and after some months I came to know that my H1B was not approved.  I was so depressed at that time. If I had my same job back in Nepal or other job I would prefer to go back. But I was nowhere. So I went back in F1 status for another year. Fortunately same employer filed next year and this time my H1b approved and now I am in project and doing average if not great.  And the best thing is that I am living with my family in USA--the land of dreams. 

The purpose of writing this long story is to help you guys by giving some motivation.  If this helps even a pint I will be very happy.  

Thanks