हामी बिदेश मा आएर मरी मरी काम गरेर दु:ख गर्छौ, अनी दु;ख गरेको पैसा सबै पढाईमा खर्चिन्छौ। हामी नेपाल जाने हो भने त जीवनभर पनि यहाँ पढेर खर्छ भएको पैसा कमाइदैन। मरि-मेटी पढ्ने , अनी नेपाल गएर २५-३०००० को जागिर खाने , अली मिल्दैन होला नि। मातृभूमी ठुलो त हो, तर हो भन्दैमा हामी साच्ची तेसो गर्न सकिन्छ र? दिल खोलेर, नढाटिकन जवाफ दिउ न साथीहरु हो।

As you have requested to speak honestly, you are right!! But if this thought comes to you before you left Nepal, would you still come over here and study? I don't know, do you feel regret or are you looking for excuse? 

I tell you honestly. Very few people do "मरि-मेटी पढ्ने" when they go to USA. Most of the people run after money rather than being serios in study.

I agree that money is required for study. But people are more serious in "घण्टा हान्ने" than in study.

Money comes money go.... but you have to remember the fact that family value is the most important thing. Here in America, you have no social life and no family values. You run for money without thinking about yourself. You have to think about bills, credit card, health insurance and what not. After coming to america and after starting to make some money, people starts to forget how small things  can make them happy. Do you remember, how you used to be happy when your father bought a new Chinese tv ?? Price didnt matter back then. The thing what matters was the time we spend together as being a family watching that tv. But here in USA you wont be happy with these kinds of small things. You will need a big LCD tv to make every one happy. 

my YES to rockey07 answer, "After all 'ban ko chari ban mai ramaucha'".

Gafadi ko Gaaff!!!!!  You have a choice, nobody is holding you before and nobody is holding you now. Greed is what holds you, after all. I speak my mind with honesty. Thank you.

I agree with rockey7 2

tapaiko kura akdam thik lagyo wastab ma yestai 6 ..........

tapaiko kura akdam thik lagyo wastab ma yestai 6 ..........

In my opinion epecially related to this issue: Here's where you have to think about your priority. If money is your objective, then i honestly suggest to stay here. But if you are looking towards doing something for your country with average level lifestyle, then Nepal could be good too. One idea that has attracted me recently is about working here, but go and contribute some back in our country on vacation, make time for that. Even better if you can start a side business back home. I think some one from our community here is Sajha went back on vacation and established a Wine selling business in kathmandu, i wonder how is he/she doing..

Rockey 07

I agree with you. The discrimination still exist largely in America. When you step out of the door people will start seeing your color, race, call you a nigga, chinaman, Arab, Indian, etc, etc. You can clearly read their head what they mean to. Some people literally curse at you and if they don't find anything to tell against you then they will say "this is America. .... blah blah blah."

They called white house because administration was dominated by Whites. Now Obama is in white house and Blacks are dominating the people with other races. Do you remember a Harvard so-called professor acting a true racist over an officer that simply was doing his job? then how Obama reacted quickly?

There is a discrimination on every street of America. The American owned business never hire other races at first place. If they do, it is only some blue color jobs on the street. or If you have a high-level degree. Comparing to that the white do not have to have high level degree. They think they can simply work and smarter than other people in the world. In fact they are not. They don't want your brain to use. They ask you to use their brain in the corporate offices or anywhere else.

So my opinion is obviously home country is always better place to live and spend life.

Thanks.

Rockey 07,

Yes you are right to some extend. I am not saying I am 100% agree with you. But here is the thing. We all are after money. That is a bitter truth which we must accept. Yes I agree, Money is not everything but without money we can't even exist. Thats why we are sacrificing our so called 'small small happiness'. We had to migrate only because the situation in Nepal was going very very bad. Even for small things, we had to struggle like a hell.

The one thing which differ Human from other is, man always think about his future and for his children. Even though he has to live in hell, he will always dream for heaven in future.

I used to be a guy who wanted to live in Nepal with a little money. I was much happy actually. Though, I didn't have iphone, gadi/wadi , strip club night life, barely speak english, 72' flat screen TV, XBOX 360, MAC air notebook bla bla..I was quite happy with my small Nokia Phone, Bikram tampoo, basantapur ko momo pasal, Chinese b/w TV, NPR:38,000 parne pentium II computer and kathmandu ko dhula ani dhuwa. After I came over here and Now just compared me what I used to, I found myself very dirty. I got everything what I asked to god but finally found myself empty. I am not blaming anyone its just a fate.

The one thing which we all must agree is " We don't want to touch the dirt"

 

khai k ho k ho afno ta na padai nai bho na paisa nai bho yaar...na ghar ko na ghaat ko bhako chu yaar....aba euta matra kura le mero life banauna sakcha yaar...mega million paryau bhane natra life is hell here and is same back home

@ Sexy in Sari,

@rockey07,

Going back or not, it all depends on what you prefer. If you think that you are comfortable in staying here being an alien, then you should be fine. I realize that USA can provide you with the money, human rights and many other aspects but lets not forget that its not our country. If any thing bad happens to this country like financial crisis of even " thulo atankakari hamala" then these americans will make our life much more difficult just because we have brown skin. 

Rockey 07,

Again i supports your opinion. one thing i also agree that, THIS IS NOT OUR COUNTRY. The Word "own country" has a lots of value.

If everybody think very seriously then we all come to conclusion which is

Nepal has many small problems such as water, electricity bla bla..but But as we just noticed between these two days, US has Much more severe problems. Two consecutive gun shootout happend in two days.

 

Rocky7 I am not deferring to what you have presented. At the same time am stating my opinion as: I have at times heard being said: THE GRASS LOOKS GREEN ON THE OTHER SIDE.” I have  wondered why!!!! I figure out perhaps the safety-tank is leaking on that side.

 

So my point is: it does not matter where one lives as long as the person has the reason of being there and gives meaning to life that results in satisfaction and peace. I believe we humans travel or say migrate to life experiences, adventures, ventures, wisdom, and over all for survival. I find migration as a fact of human existence.

 

The feelings will always be playing with me as to where I belong and tricking me as well. The ego as always shall be seeking the identity that I need to have one. I don’t want to bounce back and forth with my opinions however, I say that I like Nepal not because it is unique than any other country in the world. I like Nepal because I was born, open my eyes, raised and learn the culture which I genuinely appreciate. So I don’t want to compare Nepal to any other countries and what we gain or lose. I belong to Nepal and I will keep belonging to Nepal because I learned my survival, my journey started from Nepal along with exploration of my existence.

 

My apology if my writing is vague.

 

Jai Hosh.

@Nightelf,
I don't know what is the freedom meant to you. You can drink whatever and whenvere you want in Nepal also. Infact I started drinking when i was 5 years old :) and nobody stopped me. Right now I am almost 30 and still they want my ID while buying alcohol :).

US rule saying, you can't have "Churos" untill you get 18. Well We all know most of the american break this law. In Nepal, nobody stopped you have churos except your parents.

I have other things to compare in the name of freedom. Will discuss when we got some freetime :)

Thanks

mampakha