I am in extreme situation, just wondering what will you guys do.

I met my BF 2years back in college, i thought he was nice, he is cool , he is bindas, just like buddha. I fell for him, we moved together in the same apt, until recently i found abt this guy, HE JUST PRETENDS all these( just to sleep with girls as he has slept in past), he travels to diff state just to sleep.

But I like him, i felt for him, u know nepali gl are nepali, once you gave ur heart, cant change, i did everything to win him back, he is a chain smoker, stole cigarette, liquor from my working place, i even befriend his best friend who is from the same community and caste, his habit also same, stealing, sleeping with gls.

Now what ppl will do in this situation.

ADVISE NEEDED

Yes am f**ed up but need good advise though

For every nepali girl in a messed up relationship like that, there are 50 other nepali boys looking to hook up with you so don't waste your time.

However, if you want to think critically, then maybe the guy loves you but wants to have sex with others. Men are genetically programmed to mate with as many females as they can and it may be difficult for some guys to overcome that. So figure out whether he loves you or not. Figure out whether it's love you want or sexual commitment. And then you can go from there

rithink, u cant give this shit reason, man r gentically strong, ...

rithink, do u think this that men r strong in everything

Not genetically strong, just genetically inclined to mate with more females, so as to 'spread the seed', to continue their specy.

Gurl you can do better than that. Just see in your own college there are way too many nice guys both nepali and others...you deserve better than that.

कान्छी, के सोचेर बसिराकी तिमी? बजियेको मट्याङ्रा फुट्ने गरी देउ, अनि आफ्नो बाटो लाग। बार्है महिना कात्तिक लाग्ने तुरीलाउरेसँग बसेर तिम्लाई फलिफाप हुँदैन। उही छ नि एउटा भनाइ- घाँस न सास, "कुन्नी के जाती"को सत्यानास भन्या जस्तो मात्रै हो।

rethink:
Men are genetically programmed to mate with as many females as they can
just genetically inclined to mate with more females, so as to 'spread the seed', to continue their specy.
- that's a really lame excuse for not being able to control sex drives. We males are pretty sloppy regarding sex. women have much higer libido than males do but they are able to keep their hormones under control and they tend to keep their relationships to as few males as possile or are just more honest.

Jantare yep that's the animal instinct.

When the females got pregnant and were getting ready to nourish the newborn, do you think male animals are expected to be jacking off waiting for the female to get ready for sex?

I don't think so

@rethink, who told you men are genetically programmed to sex with as many women as possible. I'd like to read that report bro. In my opinion, women are same, 'uhi dyang ko mula'.


@kentuckykanchi, nothing is wrong in your part. when you guys se*x-ed , sort of bodily chemicals..endorphine and stuff got exchanged. this thing creates bond at emotional level. this is what happening to you , when you wrote 'you felt for him'. now, just take it easy, isolate yourself from that person for at least 2-3 months and the effect of that body chemicals shall fade away and you should be back to normal. just remember every morning, that you slept with male HO and just give a [Disallowed String for - banned word] about him..  this mental preparedness will even help you accelerate to stabilize things quickly. think about all the bad things he might have done.. just bad things.. if there is none, think always that he's male HO stripping dancing in the women's strip club. and we know what HO is like. use and throw. just do it..  don't ever think of going back to him again.. run away from him.. there's always better waiting for you and believe me everything happens for good. there is something good, wonderful waiting for you.. naani..

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Is this Kentuckycowboys your boyfriend?

lol stat bro!! HAHAA

 Like No_More_Crush said, dumb the guy and move on with your own life. 

And like I tell every other Nepali girl, NEVER move in with a guy unless you're dead sure that he's the one! I know that hormones get the better of you when you're young but unless you're 22-23, decisions of moving in with a guy often leads to bad consequences. I know this not by my own experience but by my friends' experiences (mostly girls). 

I bet you still have some feelings towards him despite him being a jerk but that's what separates us from other animals. We have emotions and feelings - even towards objects and people that don't deserve them. 

The longer you stay with him, the harder it's likely to get. 

Good luck. 

STAT bro totally made my day !
@kentuckykanchhi : try mailing this story to Karan jOhar, he could be the one doing better justice to you, not us "bharautes" in sajha !

 I dont see a reason why you are still with that even when you know he is cheating on you. The only thing I am considering is you dont wanna loose your F*** buddy. 

To Rethink, Jantare and bittertruth:

"Men are genetically programmed to mate with as many females as they can
just genetically inclined to mate with more females, so as to 'spread the seed', to continue their specy.
- that's a really lame excuse for not being able to control sex drives. We males are pretty sloppy regarding sex. women have much higer libido than males do but they are able to keep their hormones under control and they tend to keep their relationships to as few males as possile or are just more honest."

---While Jantare is right that it is a very lame excuse, but it is also true what rethink has insisted based on evolutionary studies. In most animal kingdoms, the survival of species is ensured through spreading of the seeds by males. Hence, you see males mating with many different females.

Females might have more libido than males, but the cost of reproduction is high for the females. Like rethink said, for men it is merely planting the seed, for females each libido comes with the possible consequence of having to nurture the seed for nine months :). This has been evolutionary, psychologically and biologically studied. There must be thousands of reports on them. Google bro!

But back to kentucky kanchi's issues, it does not however warrant we humans to sleep around. we not only have a bigger brain but we're probably continually in evolution with our morality. Or else, we'd be same as the cave man still trying to impress women with fire. sleeping around is not a sin, but for a woman, she should have the courage to say enough is enough :) best of luck.

@kanchi first thing first get urself straight first. U can't be confused over anything, make up ur mind and do whatever u think is right. As an outsider, i think u r one of the dumbest girls that every guy wants to hook up to at first and then try to get rid of. U know everything and still lay in the bed waiting for the guy????? F**k that... Get out of the situation that u created ( not intentionally still) and move on... There way more guys in US than girls.. I am pretty sure u can find the one that will love u and don't care abt the past.
U seem like a nice girl who cares if there was another another kanchi she would have cut that tiny little shiat and make one more morcha abt the issue.

First of all I am very sorry to hear your story. Also there is nothing new I am putting here that
hadn't been said before. Having said so, now do what majority of us are suggesting here.

Move on with your life. Just Isolate yourself from him and don't contact him at all.
Don't call him, don't text him, don't receive his phone calls and  don't see him either. And slowly it will fade away and trust me on this. If you are still living in his apartment, leave that one as soon as you can.

The first thing you have to do is separte that "attachment" for him from yourself. Don't tell me its hard, I know its hard but its not impossible either. Just try to do it and you will be thankful to yourself later that you did at right time.

You will find someone a way better than him and at that time you will feel that "Feel" again.So don't worry about it now. Talk with your friends they are a great live savers. If you are not in contact with people for a while call them and say you just wanted to say "hello" and see how many people will be glad that you called. Do something that you are always intersted to do but couldn't able to do so far for whatever reason. This is the right time. You will find yourself a better person ever than before.


To answer your question,

No One deserves to be suffer in this world.If I would have been in that situation, I would have left him.


Don't grief about it anymore because its nott gone do anything better. Past is already gone and there is a very bright future looking for your ahead.



one small note. browse sajha chat if you get bored or feel alone. There are great guys,gals, entertainer, poets,musicians, singers all kind of people(serial,PIH,CG,footyfan,naam,dhwase,dallu,rahulvai,grace,mulmiz,nepal_united,sleeples just to name few). However there are  also some कामचोर 's and माहाअल्छी 's too....  .Best time to meet people is  office time(9 am to 5 pm)

and after 9 PM.

Good luck for you and May god bless you

This post looks like a troll.

shakya she is not your mother why are you calling her bitchhhh ... are yu getting to old ...stop asking for free ..
kanchi best thing for you is
move on
i can date guy who smoke but not with guy who sleep around who know if he have hiv ...
your man have hiv and has bad manner of stealing ... i cant date this kinda guy who i cant even tell with my friend he my bf ..
u better without him
even you are ugly then other gal
but we all are special to our friend n parent ..
respect your self stop dating jerk ...
u think you are in love with i am 100% sure there is only 30 person left for u to say you are in love with him 
broke up with him ....call him ugly call him boka make him felt he is worst guy in earth ... after that move u will cry for 3 month 
1 yrs to forget him 
1 and half yrs u be with some nice guy 
who is much better then him ..but if u always fall in love with bad guy then u better make lot gf then hang learn from them dont do anything stupid belive on guy word .. try to be happy

metalgal