Been with a foreign girl for about 3 years. Dont quarrel much. We have our understanding. She pretty. She def dont seem like she wants to quit on me. She just as good as a nepali girl but still i cant make up my mind to marry her. I cant leave her either. Feels like i might miss out on something if i dont marry my race. Need advice from someone with experience. Will be generous if you could share what you have seen from your close ones who were in my shoes. Btw i live in states and intend to live here.

What race are you?

Follow your heart just like Bollywood movie

@khairey
lol lol

If you feel like you have a greater purpose in life, then marry the girl you love who is from another race. Perhaps this will be your contribution to end racial violence and help bring world peace. Otherwise it's not worth mixing race and marriage! IMHO.

It is fine the first few years but eventually the charm wears off. Older you get, more you like to cling to your roots and the WARS start. Seen this drama over and over and over and over!!!

-Z

Grass is always greener on the other side! Stick with who you are with unless you really can't live with the person. It doesn't matter which race your girl is from. It's all about understanding and commitment.

make clear about your culture/family values ; expectation from your family members etc. Please do the same for her too.
Since you guys already have understanding( as mentioned) I'd strongly recommend you to stick with the girl.
~Cheers

Lol... he said foreign girl. For us, Caucasian is only subset of foreign girl. She could be African American aka kali or latino american, also fits Bhutanese american in that definition.

@Reweird, in above case your YES and NO conditions needs a lot of reshuffle.

@Khairey, people who shuffle a lot in those two category usually are the one who ends up in a divorce soon. A few is fine, but not all. If you are of of those, BEWARE

Rewire says: "If you're willing to dig deeper into Americans, their values, culture, tradition and their general views of life and the world."

Congrats if you did it, Rewire! In my eyes you were truly born with greater purpose in life than most of us....KUDOS to you sire.

you can never compare your situation and relationship with others.

@Procras2nator

What is this "something" you're afraid you will miss out on? 3 years is a long time. You should decide soon before you waste too much of her time.

If the cultural differences scare you that much, you should marry your friend (from the same socio-economic background) who have been together since primary school

or

your sister (ohh come on, दिल पे मत लो यार).

And yet personality comes into play irrelevant of cultural background.

So if you both like e/o, then go beyond the color/language/dress/food, brother! People are nowadays becoming more and more world citizens.

Procras2nator saathi

If you are husband your wife has to defend all the time saying he is from Nepal, not Arab Muslim/dark Indian (if you are Bahun) nor Chinese/Asian (if you are Gurung/Rai/Newar). So is you have to defend you wife saying she is from good family (not white trash if she is white nor ghetto if she is black). If you have kid, possibly he/she more tend to be an american than Nepali (either way American spouse dominates family). The day you are disabled/unemployed your spouse starts to look other alternatives than helping/staying with you. No matter how much Nepali thinks they are Americanized, they still are brown and are different in this society. However, I see happy "inter racial international couple" but still they missing their own cultural family values (Nepali would happy stay being intact family (dad, mum, couples, grandchildren) and American would stay separately (no matter their parents have enough property to accommodate).

"Foreign" women often bang her coworkers and friends even on small issues with their hubby :). Reweird could share more if he has gone through this ;). May be cool for few years but things could take turn after that.