Hello guys,
I know this is not the right place to express personal problems like the one I have been going through for a few months. I and my girlfriend broke up a few months back and I was the reason behind this. It has been months but I can't forget her and this is ruining my life. This has greatly affected my personal, professional and educational life. A few days back she texted me and wished me a happy bhai tika. Does it mean she is changing her mind to come back to me? I know it's not good idea to text her or call her. But I still have strong feelings for her. How can I let her know that I want her back without making any contacts with her?
Whenever I talk to another girl, she comes into my head which makes me stop talking to other girls. What would I do guys? Please throw some genuine opinions, they would be greatly appreciated.

Dude, why didin't u go n have a tika from her ? She wants to have u as a brother now. Ting ting :)

Pharsi, I think bairaghi is right this time. Getting a "happy bhai tika" text from her is not a good sign.

your big ego stopping you from what you really want to do.

Why don't you try contacting her and telling her exactly what you told us? And if you two broke up because of you, you need to apologize to her. I think you will feel better after talking to her even if she doesn't take you back.

@LvuNepal
So you mean I should call her and beg her to be back into my life.

@MlbNpl
Yes, I have apologized to her when I realized I made a mistake. But she told me to not contact her.
I started even feeling worse when I knew that the girl I am talking now happens to be her cousin. I told her cousin exactly what happened with ex, and she said she was okay with that.
Should I tell my ex that I am talking to your cousin and am feeling bad for you?

@MlnNpl
Contacting her is like hurting myself. I don't even know whether she will answer my call. What other means I might use to reach her without bothering her

I am assuming she is Nepali. How long have you known each other before you guys got married? If you have known each other for a long time, then try to work it out.

Furke,
We never got married, and were supposed to get married in January. Yes, she is Nepali and lives in Nepal. We have known each other for a few months. I met her through our relatives when I was there in last May.

If the relationship lasted only a few months, I'm surprised you are still hung up on her. If she asked you not to contact her when you tried to apologize, then I don't think there is anything you can do. Maybe the reason you are not being able to move on is because her cousin reminds you of her too much and you feel guilty about dating the cousin. You shouldn't feel guilty about dating her cousin. Once you break up, it's none of your ex's business who you date. I don't think you owe her any explanation. I'd say try harder to move on and don't let your past relationship affect the current one negatively.

@MlnNpl
Thank you for your suggestions and time that you are putting into it. I feel guilty because I made a small issue a huge and told her she was nothing to me. The reason that played key role was when I was there we planned for spending time together like shopping, outing and stuffs, but she canceled every time even she agreed to do so. In addition to that, the day before I was coming back here, she chose her friend to go out when we already had a plan for shopping. And I asked her that night who you give more priority, a friend or the person you were going to spend your life with. She simply said half/half. After I came back here, I again asked her what fractions of your love you offer to me, she said 50%. This was the point when I started seeing a dark future with her. Was this enough for a break up or was just my mentality that she was using me to get in the us?

@bigrekoketo
Gali nagarna yar, suggestions magi raxu ulto gali po garxa.
I am really in tough situation brother

maya bhanne chij nai yesto ho, ke garnu dai. janus kura garnus, namile malai pm garnus ;)

Pharsi, it's really hard to answer your questions not knowing the whole situation.

"She simply said half/half. After I came back here, I again asked her what fractions of your love you offer to me, she said 50%.Was this enough for a break up or was just my mentality that she was using me to get in the us? "

Honestly, I don't think that reason was good to break up with her. It sounds like you didn't give her space. If she was seeing another guy behind your back, that would be a different story. But she was just hanging out with her friends?

It sounds like you won't be at ease unless you talk to her once. It sounds like you really feel you wronged her and you want to hear that she forgives you. You said she texted you a few days ago. Perhaps she will talk to you if you text back.

But again, these are all speculations based on your comments. I could be totally wrong.

MlnNpl,
I agree with you that the reason was not good to break up. My point was why would I be someone's 50% ? If she didn't have to meet me, she could have said that she didn't want to spend time with me. We would talk over night and when we both planned for spending time together, she would cancel it at the last moment. She did it 3 times, not once which raised my concerns. It was like there was something wrong.
When I came back, I even filed for her visa ( fiancée petition). But things started getting worse when she was going out with her friend but she said she wasn't going anywhere. Later, she texted me and said she was coming home which was kinda lying even it was a minor. I still don't know why had to act suspicious because I never told her not to hang out with her friends.
I know she may have had her logics behind her activities, but to me it was like she was concealing something. All these factors drive me crazy and make me hurt her verbally which I feel guilty about. And want to apologize to her for all my insanity but don't want to bother her by texting or calling her.
I will be visiting Nepal again in mid January and planning on meeting her and genuinely apologize to her for the things that I have done to her. Would it be okay to do so or just let it go and move on?

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Buddy, just bail out. She is not worth it. You will thank me later. :)

You need to understand the fact, wishing the difference between tihar and Bhai tika. On the other hand it might be accidental text to you or I presume she is just fooling around. However, I can suggest you to make a approach toward her one more time. There is nothing wrong trying one more time.