Women out there!!
Can you gimme one good reason to celebrate Teej?
Thanks.

gals it is stupid to go for fasting in teej.............i am one of the bf who wont be happy with gf with that and neither i am going to live long life............making someone starving in name of myshake.........no fu44444 way.................

it is stupid tradition done by some stupid brahams for make males superior thats it...

u can dance , sing, drink and smoke but dont take barta

Kanchi... I don't see one good reason. Really.

i agree.. y dont the husbands ever fast for their wives?

kanchi

i say to see how hungry people feel ....

in the world full of hungry people.

to step in other people's shoes for a day

i suggest even Nepali men start doing so.

Thanks for your input everyone.

I cannot believe that kanchi (supposedly Nepali cheli) can put such kind of thread and there will be a line of sheep supporting that.
Think about a lady in remote village. She works from 4.00am to 8.00pm everyday, from cooking, taking care of gai-bhainsi, taking care of sasu-sasura, taking care of husband-children..........I don't know what else. They never had time for any kinda fun or whatever. For the whole year they keep waiting for Teej, when they go back to Maiti, relax, dance , eat, share their feelings crying or laughing to their mom and dad.........and every possible thing they want to do.
Ask them what is the importance of Teej?
Now I can guess you guys celebrate charismas, new year, Valentines day ...etc thinking you are very modern and any body doing the age old cultural stuff is stupid.
Why you guys donýt think that, because of such kind of festivals and more our parents are still living together and not divorced. Family ties based on such stuff, which you so called Americanized people forgot about.
Salam chha mero saabai lai.....
And scientifically it is good for health to give rest once a week to your stomach, the routine even many Hollywood stars follow nowadays.

No offense to anybody please.

i second crishna...


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crishna

IGNORANCE..........................!!!!!!
so you are saying whatever that is happing there is good and we should do the same thing???
wow....may be they need some education to understand that rudi parampara of whatever you mentioned above(including having to wait teej to have fun)........that's not right
and i would nerver starve myself for my husband(if i ever get married)

enjoy and try to
(too lazy to check for typos please make sense out yourselves)

who said teej was all about fasting???


u don't wanna fast its ur pblm.. but there r other suitable rasons to celebrate teej..
on the event of teej.. ur parents sends u an invitation.. on the eve of teej u dance eat sing... n have fun..

Unknown KT, you missed my point,

Ok tell me what options they have. I am talking aboutmore that 90% women of Nepal who wiat for teej to have some fun. You are talking about educating them .....are you kiding to me and to all those women??
You are very fortunate to get good education and to be able to read my and others posting in internet, but that is far beyond the imagination of the women few KMs away even form kathmandu city.

My another point was the family ties. Teej is not just starving for your husband. You are polluting the importance of Teej by saying "starving". Its the feeling of you towards your husband, becuase you love him and you want him to live longer and be healthy. Those feelings are very important for good and healty life. Otherwise you will be like an ordinary american changing husband every year looking for something and you dont know what that somethng is.
Please dont take me as chauvinist. I lived in remote village and I know the pain of women living there.

When are the husbands going to pray, celebrate or starve for the long life, good health of their wives?

And what do yo mean by an ordinary american changing husband every year? At least they have the freedom to do that if they are not happy, and don't get treated right by their husbands. Do the women in Nepal have that choice, huh? While the husband stays out most of the times with his friends, gets drunk, gambles, gets involved in infidelity and comes home to treat the wife bad, she still has to love him, be faithful and live with him, and wait for that one day to celebrate a short freedom? What are you talking about Crishna? Give our women freedom to live and then they don't have to wait for this one day.

Crisha ji, that was sooo gr8. Ur both post were amazing, i even dont hav word to describle.
U hav changed my way of viewin' 'bout teej from today, now.

Gr8 responce.........


Cheers to Teej
:)

Since I'm very fortunate and now that i have learned about self repect and individual's respect and their rights.... I would rather try conveying message than give up and follow the rudibadiparampara..................................you know what ghampani is so right when he said"when are the husbands going to pray, celebrate or starve for the long life, good health of their wives?

And what do yo mean by an ordinary american changing husband every year? At least they have the freedom to do that if they are not happy, and don't get treated right by their husbands. Do the women in Nepal have that choice, huh? While the husband stays out most of the times with his friends, gets drunk, gambles, gets involved in infidelity and comes home to treat the wife bad, she still has to love him, be faithful and live with him, and wait for that one day to celebrate a short freedom? What are you talking about Crishna? Give our women freedom to live and then they don't have to wait for this one day. "

Aray baaf re baaf, yo jagaha ma ta bhukamp gayi rahechha unnecessarily. Jhagada nagari halnus aafu aafu ma. Ta mero advice yo chha ki man lage barta basi halne, man nalage barta nabasi linay. Man lagchha bhane naach gaan garera ramailo pani gari halnus...ta woh kathmandu me chha ni mandiir.....shiv ko mandir....aray kasto naam bhuli hale....haan pashuati nath ji ko ma pani gayi halnus, tara swastha ko khyal nagarera barta basda bahut musibat khada bhailina sakchha, tyasma prekaution lee halnu uchit hunchha.

Teej is the hindu version of "Girls Gone Wild."

I am not sure about Teej influencing the divorce rate in Nepal, but crisna did put Teej in sociocultural perspective in Nepal. I guess the significance of teez gets marginalized in urban pockets, where folks have no need for "Datiun", celebrations such as those mentioned by crisna are aplenty to keep people amused all year round, and twisting to the tunes flaring out of speakers in a dingy clubroom makes more sense than singing and dancing in veneration to the Lord. If it is the urban cultural conditioning that makes one not see the importance of Teej, do we send that person to the inquisition? I think not. Understand the differences and learn from it before you place blame where it does not belong.

- Scats

Ok guys I quit.....

You guys talk like politicians.....do that and do this.......and then this will happen, but they never do a thing because they know it is not possible.
YOu guys saying educate them, give them a freedom, do that for thme and .....In country like nepal it is not possible.
I am not talking about the only unknown KT or anybody who think have the freedom to do whatever and enjoy it.
I have no say for person talking about "freedom", which I don't understand. I guess you mean to say women in villages should go to bar around the villages and have party and disco near the khola.........
It would be great to have that but in the languge of politicans only.

I think main problem is the way I think and you guys think, you guys probly never stepped in the village area of Nepal. SO NO POINT OF DISCUSSION.
Sorry if I heart somebodis personal freedom.

Shanti shanti shanti.....

I want to add a few more reasons:
1) To meet their sisters, cousins, and childhood friends ( remember our rural women don't have emails and cell phones to contact friends)
2) To escape from the hardship of everyday life (even if it is for a day or two)
3)To meet parents and relatives
4) To eat descent food (remember buharis don't/didn't even get enough food..forget about delicious food)
5) Fasting (most probably for health reason)
6) Datiwan to brush their teeth (they didn't/don't have electric toothbrushes)
7) About husbands being abusive....(Sasus ( women) are more likely to abuse buharis.So, it is women torturing women more than men torturing women.)
8) In our male dominant culture ( at least in the past) there might have been some other "not-so-good" reasons behind fasting, but that alone doesn't make Teej so unnecessary.
9)It is a tradition they want to continue(what is your freaking problem?), if are free not to celebrate it.
10) And I am also fasting by the way, I need to keep myself (and my system) fit so that I can be more active and keep my wife HAPPY as she is...heheheh.
DP

Crishna, To your comment
"I cannot believe that kanchi (supposedly Nepali cheli) can put such kind of thread and there will be a line of sheep supporting that"
I say, WAKE UP AND SMELL THE COFFEE!!
I think you definitely fall into the MCP (Male Chauvinistic Pig) bucket!!
Peace Everyone!!