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Sajha Gazer
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Posted on 02-02-06 10:10
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"Where are you from?" was all I could muster when I first ran into her on Sajha Chat. Her choice of nickname was partly responsible for my bravado. I hadn't talked to a girl on chat in years and I was genuinely curious about the person hiding behind that exotic nickname.
"Nowhere" she said.
"Ha ha..." I persisted "We must live close-by then. I'm from Kansas too!"
"You're funny" she said.
"LOL" I typed hoping not to loose her attention "So what do you do?"
Thats how it all began. We exchanged email addresses and IMs at the end of that conversation. It wasn't long before I added her to my buddy list and she added me to hers. Soon we started chatting everyday , sometimes for hours. IM conversations gave way to long hours on the phone shortly thereafter. We talked about everything from music, movies, arts, likes and dislikes, places we had been too, what we ate that day, when we slept, what happened at work etc etc
We were both lonely then. I had just gotten over a messy break-up. She was going though a crisis of confidence torn between her duties as a daughter and her desire to live life as a woman of the twenty-first century. She was under pressure from her parents to get married but had no desire to do so until she found someone of her own liking. Whenever she phoned her parents, her mother would talk about so-and-so guy who was "from a good family, well educated, well to do". Thats as far as her mother would go but she got the hint. The pressure, I sensed, was pretty enourmous.
She told me I was like a breath of fresh air compared to the guys who she had "met" at the behest of her parents. All of whom she had turned down, one after the other. She often made fun of those guys. One guy could barely speak 5 sentences without brining sex into the conversation she told me and another one wanted her to cook, clean and have babies and do nothing else! I admit I was a bit flattered when she told me I was a very different kind of guy.
We met in person for the first time in New York . She was going there for a conference and when I knew about it I convinced my boss to send me on training to NYC that week. We watched Les Miserables on Broadway and went for a late night dinner. We also did some sightseeing together one day. In an act of inexplicable insanity I even offered to go shopping with her on our last day in the city. I had begun to enjoy her company and I sensed she had begun to enjoy mine as well.
But there was an underlying tension in the relationship that was bound to surface as we got more intimate and opened up to each other. No, it didn't have anything to do with sex. Although we never talked about it, it became apparent that our cultural, social and economic backgrounds were very different. Which in it self might not have been such a big deal had our life experiences till that point not been so different. It hit me then that we are all products of our experiences and it is different experiences, and not class or caste, that make people different.
We both wondered, I think, whether it was worth the effort to try and overcome those differences. I sensed we were both too scared to bring this up lest we hurt the other person. There was an element of wounded pride involved too : one of us had to accept that the other one was better off in some way and neither one of us was prepared to do that.
A few weeks after the New York trip, I had to go to Los Angeles, this time for a real training. By then we had been talking less and less. In fact, it had been over a month since we had spoken. While in LA, I met up with a good friend of mine from my school days. Over dinner he told me he was seeing someone.
"Oh, where is she from?" I asked.
"Nowhere" he said laughing. "Thats what she told me when I first asked her that on Sajha chat"
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SITARA
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Posted on 02-02-06 10:21
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mahakaal
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Posted on 02-02-06 10:23
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Rockon_gal
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Posted on 02-02-06 10:25
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awww kasto cutee wish life would b really lik that lik a "cute lovely movie kinda story" but UNFORTUNATELY its notttt if this is true then u guyss r luckyy exciting story to tell ur kids :P tara k garnu testo hudaina sabai ko im not tellin this is stupid o nething dun get me wrong but lif isn't a fairy tale o movie if this ir ur story all the best for future
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Hunk_in_Grave
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Posted on 02-02-06 11:02
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Good penmanship, simple yet captivating!!
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catmandoman
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Posted on 02-02-06 11:04
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Very well written. I hope it's not a true story :(
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Birkhe_Maila
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Posted on 02-02-06 11:16
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nepalean
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Posted on 02-02-06 11:31
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कस्तो सल सल बग्ने कलम, कुन चाइ डटपेनले लेखेको ?
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ejuram
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Posted on 02-02-06 11:39
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China Fultina Timroo Kaatha Padera Dhanna Gultina Kasai Ko Yaad Aayoooo' Its Nice :-)
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flip_flop
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Posted on 02-02-06 11:39
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Tantalizing and real !!! More to come Mr. Sajha_Gazer? Eagerly waiting.
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xsajha
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Posted on 02-03-06 12:48
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Gr8 ..... Gotta write a book... would be an instant hit
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John_Galt
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Posted on 02-03-06 12:55
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nostalgic.....awfully nostalgic.... A splendid piece of work....simply fascinating.
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Posted on 02-03-06 1:13
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Great story!!! Suprisingly, It coincicides with a story I am writing. Would you mind if I use it? BTW those girls from NOWHERE are good for nothing, I tell ya wat!
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freak_alien
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Posted on 02-03-06 1:31
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Posted on 02-03-06 1:41
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hehehe, we got the guy's version here. Is it possible to read the girl's version too? Hari Sharanam.
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Amazing
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Posted on 02-03-06 4:21
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Posted on 02-03-06 5:59
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Amazing consider urself lucky that atleast u got to meet her...in my case I cudnt meet her even when it was possible for me to..which I'll regret in my life. Long distance relationship is exciting...me being on the verge of it refrained....the practicalities are tremendous that you always have that feeling of insecurity at the back of your mind.( Hey gals before you start giggling just let me be clear here.. its not only u who talk abt security in a relationship, serious guys do aswell) Yes its true they come from Nowhere n they tease you away to 'nowhere'. Shit happens:) we both agree on that....now she is just another buddy in my buddy list and yeah me too on hers. We share some smiles every now n then but the charm is Lost , Lost forever. God Bless you for writing such a good piece...damn u rock, definitely u r not made of stone :) keep up the good work. if u need a break n you are broke at the same time come to Nirman's place ..we will have momo together. Hopefully Nirman isnt broke..then all of us are broke Haha. Nirman so silent these days..whats up with u dude...Goodmorning exam's over BOY..PARTY TIME..
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wateva
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Posted on 02-03-06 7:31
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LOL And I hope I did not loose the attention.... OMG this was funny! I am ROFL... First belly dancing and now this... turning out to be a good morning!
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Felicity
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Posted on 02-03-06 7:46
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It is beautiful and touching.
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Posted on 02-03-06 9:02
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