Hi folks,
I am a Nepalese and in love with an Indian girl. I came as a student in the US. We took some classes together, and I was not serious in the beginning. I felt that she likes me. We used to see each other in the library, cafeteria, and in the school yard. I thought I could have some physical with her while in college, then leave. She was fast forward. One day she invited me to her apartment to help her with the maths. Her roomate had a class at that time, so we were only two. We studied together and I felt at one point that she is asking for it. Then I also grabbed her pomegranates and went on... This has been going for a while now. Now, I feel that I love her and want to marry her. Her family lives in the city, two hours away from the college. I have even met her parents once in a while during weekends. Her family seems to be cool with a Nepalese son-in-law. But my parents won't. I can convince them though. But, will this relationship be good thinking of a long-term? They are Indian, and we Nepalese. The language barrier, small cultural differences between the two families. Does it matter? When we have kids, it will be more complicated. I'm confused what to do. I thought I could leave easily but that's not going to happen. Has anybody been happily married with Indians?

 @nepali lahure,

I liked your comment. I felt that you understood me exactly. I can't just leave her like a cold turkey and marry a Nepal, Hindu, educated girl. Actually, I don't like educated Nepali girls at all especially their tantrums and career oriented mindset. Anyway, lets see how out relationship goes? Thanks all for commenting.

talk to your family and ask yourself there is no solid answer for your case. its entirely depends on various factors, categorized each and what is most important in your life then take a decision.
gyani bana babu badhi halla khalla haina

I completely agree with what Nepali Lahure said. This is probably just an infatuation. You can still date the girl but I don't think you should marry her. Nothing against her background, religion, and nationality, I just don't think this relationship is going to be beneficial to both sides in long term. You guys already broke up and patched up multiple times, and you said she still threatens with her ex boyfriends. If she was brought up in India, maybe things could have been different. But from what I see, you seem to be a more traditional guy and she is completely westernized (not her fault). If a girl still brings up her ex boyfriends, then that is a sign to not move forward in that relationship.

last kiss: does she love you truly or is it just inflatuation? I might be wrong but this is something you must find out first. You said she was born here but be careful in taking any indecisive decision since getting married with a right girl and a girl who value who you are matters the most. Looking from the point of you, she wants to learn more about you or may be looks like she is not acting fast about marriage loks like that why she wants you to date more but she wants to observe you for a year that can be a red flag.
Take right decision before getting married, if both of you think alike or respect each other get married but before doing that do some homework and know what you want.

Best wishes

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