she's 19, i'm 27. no.. we are not seeing each other... i know her and she knows me too ..damn... she calls me "dai"!!
i dont know what to do.. no one has ever made me feel they way this girl does...i just cant get her out of my mind... and i dont want to ... just dont know what to do..
she' so innocent and vuneravle and lovable and everything nice and sooothing..and i feel i am not good enough for me... not that i feel i am bad or something but i guess its the age that is making me keep myself away from her...
its been about 7-8 months that i was first introduced to hert.... it wasn't love at first sight....... it's so easty to love her but it took time... and now nothing ever ever ever going to change it... i kind of avoided her for a few months...beacuse i thought it's never going to work out for the two of us..but it doesn't seem to work..distance only made my heart grow fonder...and last week when i saw her and talked the usual talk .. hi.. how;re you? loong time no see.....i haven't been able to eat sleep think . and now i know i have to do something about this... i really really have to....... she probably does;nt have the slightest of idea about my feelings..
i need help guys.. what do you think i shoufl do.. is 8 years actually almost 9 years a lot of difference in age?? am i wrong?? what do you tyhink i should do.. i mean i dont want to get iin her way.. she's got 3.5 more years befire she graduates... life sucks... help me out!!!!!

mainhoonna and mercury...good luck :oD..and yap take bhoonte suggestion...it seemd good..experienced ho?;oP hehe....but in the end..get it over with :oD..at the most NO matrai ta ho(yap easy to say ;oP hehe)..tara once its over and done with..well headaches gone ni ;o)...alikiti(understatment?;oP) heart break huncha..but i think one headaches are gone...heartbreak can be gotten over with hoina?;o)....

anyways goodluck and get it done and over it asap hopefully :oD...

This topic is very interesting. When the gal calls you dai, there is nothing wrong with that but NEVER call them Baini ke cha.instead, call them by their name, pooja, pinky, sandhya manddya... etc...
If you are not from the same class back in school, likelyhood is they would call you dai coz you might be senior in education and age.
If you are not related by blood to her, its not sin or anything to like her on that way...
Some senior girls here in sajha told me that they call some guys "dai" but don't like to be called "sister".
So that, guys feel it, no matter whether that gal called you dai or not, still she can build up feelings for you..
I have seen so many nepali girls calling dai and falling in love to that dai.. (happened this with my friend/cousin)
I have seen a girl calling my best friend dai in public but they were real lovebirds in the house.(happened with my best friend).
One girl used to call me dai, when my cousin proposed her, she told him that she likes his cousin( happened to me) . worst thing, i did not like her that way though. She still call me dai but i never called her baini.
About the age, it's not bad to like younger girls by 8-9 years difference... I have asked to few girls and they don't mind for it. Some does though.. If you happen to like very young girl, there is chance to break up soon. thats wat I have seen around. So that gamble on your own risk brothers.
Amen!

Mainhoonna and Mercury

Bros, go and tell them before it will be too late, the problem of guys is that once they know the girl and they liked them, its hard to tell the girl about their liking, since they dont want to loose them ...THATS OUR PROBLEM BROS.....coz we are always scared what it she says NO, then we cant face that word NO and once she says NO, then we think that she is no longer be our friends,we will be happy just to be near with her, always thinking about her but still dont have GUTS to say I LIKE YOU to the girl that you really like .... You can say anything to other girl....even we flirt with lots of other girls but with her, WE WANT TO BE NICE.....BRO samething happen to me as well and when i approached her, IT WAS TOO LATE...


what else i can say since we all are the same age.... BRO this things happen to me when i can 18 and we are in the same college..... and i waited for 4 yrs just to say that... but by that time it was tooo late... why i waited is... i was not INDEPENDENT at that time and i was still at college.... BUT your case is different.... BROs, once you loose the opportunity, then it will not gonna knock your door once again..... my advice to you is... GO, and LET HER KNOW YOUR FEELINGS.... if she says, YES then this world will be yours and if she says NO, then still you dont loose anything



GOOD LUCK BROS

>>>she's 19, i'm 27. no.. we are not seeing each other... i know her and she knows me >>>too ..damn... she calls me "dai"!!

Dude! she calls you dai. I don't think a 19 y.o. girl would be innocent enuff to call you dai and love you romantically at the sane time. You are just in illusion.. WAKE UP! and go to her place on bhaitika to get tika from her. At least you will get some masala from it. She already called you "dai" what's stopping you from calling her "bahini"? Call her. BAHINI and get some masalas. Tihar is near so do it before you miss the oppurtunity of getting bhaitika from her.

WAKE UP DUDE! WAKE UP!

AND SAY HELLO TO YOUR SISTER. yOU AIN'T GONNA GET TO TOUCH HER LITTLE SISTA. SO GET OVER IT!

thank you u-day! but keep your suggestion to yourself

Thanks for suggession, Kaleketo & Sajha user.

Im not sure if this girl is in USA.


Following is a true story-
In one university in Iowa, every Nepali girls are dating either Indians, or Pakistani, or Bangali, and calls all Nepali guz(losers!) dai'. Lots are converting to Islam, and wearing Burkas


Before she does the same... and invite you at her marriage in a Mosque.... go and ask her out


If Micheal Douglass can have half her age Catherine Zeta Jones, you can definately ask her out, there are millions cases like yours... dont be a sissy, and do the man thing!

Age is just a number!

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Bhoonte go and fck ur mind first... Dude whats wrong with that if that girl call him DAI.. DAI symbolize senior but actually Tihar ma tika lagai dine DAI.. I have heard wife callin her hubby a "Dai" in Gaun..About age - What do u think about Donald Trumph dude? .. So far I believe you have done or thought nothing wrong..

But make sure that girl doesn't have problem with age difference.. And if you get answer NO, do not ever humilate her.

This thread increased my confusion even more, rather than solving the problem.
I don't know what to do..............

same here mercury bro...
k garne k?? i mean i know i dont have the guts to go tell her all of a sudden out of the blue... in your case you can like bhontee's suggeestion just tell her casually that she can call you by your name and kind of stop calling you dai... but poor me.. i dont even get to talk to her... :(.... now i think i will firwsst try to build a friendly bond .. .. see how she takes the change in my behaviour towards her..... you know a little more attention from me than usual... and then take it on from there..
bro timro ta sajilo cha ni.. mero ta have to start from the bottom
best of luck for the two of us!

hey ktmeye, that thing about nepalese girls converting to islam is crazy shit, man. if a muslate really loved the girl, why can't he accept the fact that she is free to have her own beliefs and values. i don't trust some of these musaltes (some are really nice, though) when they ask their wives to put on these burkhas which are nothing more than bee-keeper suits. and what's wrong with these nep girls who pretty much sign a contract to put on these bee-keeper suits for their whole lives just cos some muslate said a few good things to them?
that just ain't right.

hey mercury and mainhoona, pyar karna to darna kya!!! girls tend to be more mature than guys of the same age group. that's why girls like older guys, who tend to be more sensible, understanding and caring. some nepalese guys who are young tend to be very immature and have a propensity to act selfish and stupid. i happen to be an exception (of course). just kidding....anyway, this may explain why even some goold ol' fashioned nepalese girls have to seek out musaltes. i think this is a mistake cos muslates *generally* dun respect their women. no explanation required here..but once you've put on the beekeeper suit, it's too late.

so given that you two can chit chat for hours means that you are on the same wavelenght...so go for it man....so what if she called you dai? would you have preferred her calling you mercury ji or mainhoona ji instead? c'mon good well-brought up nepalese girls are taught to call older guys dai...and good luck to you both...may the force be with you.

thankx zalmsingh... i agree with you on your last para completly..
cheers :)

Thnx ZalinSingh for good motivation and advice.
Lets see it works out or not !

I am main hoo naaa.And I wasted all of your time with thsi artificial story.............ha-ha-ha-------------------

damn...first of all this daii thing is so bad...english is so much better just say You to everydosy..why do nepalese have to ite everyone to a bond?/


Ok i was 19 and he's 18...so we moved in a apartment with my 21 yr old bf and a girl of 16.. but then 21 yr olds are oh so boring..they leave you behind when they go barr hopping...

so he and I (18 and 19) fell in love..now Tihar was like two days later..the 16 year old pulls out a plate of tika and starts putting bhai tika on my bf (the 21)..then the plate is handed over to me..now what do i do???/?/???????????????????

well what did i do?? One look at the(21) made me put tika on the 18..and ....then...nothing..well evrything..the 21 knew i liked 18 and the 18 knew he liked 21 as a big bro..we were going circles and cirlceces and cicrcles..and finally one pointed out..didn't you put tika on the 18??

damn end of the story...........

and i thought i was only the tweet gaffadi

damn you lutekukur..
you are like you name.......... lute
leave me alone!

And here I come again with ilke to contradict myself and make you all jokers of the day ha-ha-ha---------keep it comin' ha-ha-ha

Damn you lutekukur,
Don't play with feelings of someone !

with the kind of name that you've chosen for yourself.. everyone knows who the joker is.. right guys??
get a life lute