I am feeling 100% same to you CRYSTAL5.
I have been living here for almost 4 years . I am feeling all the time tensoin , I never feel good even a single second.That's why I changed my name too. It's me PANGRE.

Dekchidriver, in your essay that I read a couple months back, you pretty much summed up what life is like here in the US. For every indivudual it is different here. I think it boils down to one question. Would you trade your life here to being back again in Nepal where life wasn't any better? Come to think of it many of us have traded our lifestyle to one that is more promising. If one's life was better in Nepal or more fulfilling, I think there is no reason to live here.

My life is "ok" here but compared to what it was in Nepal it is better. I miss my family and friends now but when I was there I didn't feel good with them either. Why you would ask - pretty much because of financial hardships in the family and friends who were too rich to fathom my crisis. At least I'm able to accomplish something here and provide for my family to some degree. That's what is a little satisfying.

I was able to put myself through college and continue to strive for the better and amass some wealth by working hard. I still have a low paying job but I realised that in this country you can make it if you work hard and do not encounter a health related problem or meddle with the law. No matter how shitty life is here, it must be far less than what it could be in Nepal. No wonder many don't want to go back or are too ashamed to go back if you turned out a loser. Given the choice, I'd rather live in Nepal but I have my problems, so I'd rather be here.

sajhako hero,
sajha ko posting haru dherai herera nikai kura haru thaha paisakeko re chau petrol pump urf gas station ko barema basic gyan bhayecha ani dhoti haru ko barema pani...so why r u much worried abt tea or coffee stuff cause there are much other things you have to be worried abt???

Am glad that people are responding to this post.

साझाकोहिरो जी,

यो link http://www.unicodenepali.com/v3/index.html मा जानुस् Roman English नेपाली मा टाईप गर्नुस्।

अनी Cut and Paste गर्नुस्। त्यसो गर्दा तपाईं को English नेपाली मा सबैले बुझ्छन कि ?

 

 

I found this thread intersting as people are sharing their ideas but I dont understand why people always try to ruin the thread and again bring the same topic again n again like sajhako hero...everywhere i see he/she is bringing coffee and tea thing, pure english and not thing, thats simply pathetic...If you want to comment do comment but with the relevant ideas not the same annoying thing again and again sir/mam plz.

As far the life here concern it depends on two things what kind of life you had back in Nepal and what are you doing here. But if we talk about majority of the people, I think more than 90 % ( including me) USA taught us many thing, may we dint achieve everything we wanted, may we dint find USA as we thought it would be but definetely we learned alot which we dint learn in Nepal, from how to live alone without any help of other people, how to cook, how to deal with other people, different cultures, people from different parts of the world, better english, better way to talk, broad knowledge about everything and so many other things. The reason we found USA is not upto our expectation may be because we expected too much, we thought alot which we shouldnt.

You guys tell me honestly how many of you guys used to cook back at home, had worked in any places, or helped your parents do the things, paid your bills or helped parents financially ??? I know the reason as I have the same answer so as most of you.

I am happy to be here and I am loving life here. I have gone through the same thing as most of the Nepali people do go through after coming in their early stages, that doesnt mean I am through, I still in between and have long way to go. It just been 3 years I am here and I have finished my degree, got H1 and now working for some company. I will say I got lucky also but I have worked in the store for 60 hours a week in my school days, I never took off even for my exams, not even a single day and 80-90 hours in summer without a day off whole summer to pay my tutions fees and never went back home till now that doesnt mean I dont love my family or I dont want to go back. I love my family the most as do all. Regardless of what I have been doing, I always loved my life here, because people respect you as long as you work regardless of level you work. How you guys thing you will get better jobs if you are stranger here, dont have any valid documents, dont have enough skills needed, dint get degree from here because the degree we have back in nepal is all ghokante bidhya more than practical knowledge but I am not saying we have less knowledge than the people from here just I am saying is we are not exposed to real world. I have been lucky in the sense I had good friends from the beginning we came together and I came to know nice people around me always who helped me when I had gone through bad times and have crisis both financially and mentally.

Another thing you can afford to get all those facilities here with any kind of job which is hard to get back in Nepal with the descent amount of money. This is the time of our life to learn something, to achieve something better for our future, for your family and for your country. I know its natural to get fraustrated but try to be happy with what you have and what you achieved, that doesnt mean you should stop doing progress, always go for it

Saying all this thing doesnt mean Nepal is not great, I love my country the most and still now I believe I will return some day and contribute something which I can from my side, I never liked working under others and have dream of creating jobs for others.

 

Americn life....no matter what....Its 82 rs for 1$.....do the math......and DIGNITY OF LABOUR....no matter where you work......Nepalese here earn 82 times more that anyone in Nepal ( except the corrupt politicians)...SO a person who works in a Gas station earns about 1 lahk fifty thousands Nepali RS. or More everymonth.........AS for me ...when I was a student...I worked every job I could lay my hands on........I got so much experience and ideas that now I am a self employed business man. I had to kill my Nepalese mentality and ego to survive. I dont regret comming to the US but also agree that life here is very tough, bills bills bills....but I didnt ask for a easy pass.......I have learned through experience and know how to tackle situations. I make the best of my knowledge and WORK HARD so I get rewarded and sometimes I dont...which makes me want to try harder to succeed. I believe there is a transition period for every Nepalese In America........as students.....we all struggle to pay school, bills and rent, so we do whatever to graduate and gain enough experience to work in a good paying corporate job or utilize the skills learnt while working to start your own business..............we all face challenges here....but where dont you face chllenges in life??? To overcome challenges, hardship and faliure....we shape our identity and IN this land of oppertunity...we make the best of it ......I sure have.....and Im still facing challenges everysday........But I have the knowledge to overcome it and live life everyday....READY FOR THE UNEXPECTED.

I don't regret coming to US.

crystal5,

Life in US sucks for you because YOU SUCK.

Sure life in the US is tough.  You have to work hard.  You have to make money to pay bills.  Yada yada yada...

But...

Isn't life in Nepal tough too? 

Unless you are a scion of a very rich family, you have to work hard there as well.  You have to make money to pay bills... remember they do have bills in Nepal - batti, gyas, dera, chora chori ko school, micro ko bhaada, aadi, ittyaadi.

If you are in private sector in Kathmandu, you end up working 6 days a week.  Sure, you might not be as dilligent, as productive, as efficient as in the US, but those are up to you.  If you prefer to be none of those, not live up to your life's potential, sure you can probably coast a little, but you will not move up the ladder.

If you work for the government, you can probably get away with working as little as possible, but c'mon, is that really a life to aspire to?  Most sarkari karmachaaris in Nepal can't make their family's ends meet without doing something on the side, legal or illegal.  So a government worker has 3 options: (1) depend on your "talab" and stay poor, even hungry.  (2) take bribes and live with your conscience.  (3)  do another job on the side, work double time.  That's just how it is.

You could get rich doing business.  Yes, that is possible.  But most do not have the wherewithall nor the inclination.  And there's no getting around the hard work as a businessman either, especially in formative years.  Yeah, you have to work hard.

Sure you will be near your relatives and there is no denying that aspect.  But, way I see it, life is tough in Nepal as well.  There ain't no free lunch in Nepal either.  That's why ya'll are here.  Because your mom and dad ain't gonna feed you for the rest of your life.  Sooner or later you will have to earn your own keep.  And it is pretty difficult in Nepal to earn your own keep.  Go on.  Admit it.  You know it's true.

From my own experience, I am glad I am in the US because life here holds a promise.  Sure I have to work hard and things can get downright depressing sometimes.  But net net, there are more positives than negatives.  Now if you ask me what those positives are, that's whole another story and probably not germane to this discussion.  Furthermore, I don't want to sound like a jerk.  Suffice to say, I am doing better than if I had stayed in Nepal. 

So, my friend, pull up your chin, take a deep breath, lift your shoulders and put some spring in your steps.  You have made it to the US.  Now it may not be a land of milk and honey, but this is certainly a land of opportunity.  There is always a chance that if you are smart and work hard, you will end up getting ahead, whatever meaning you give to it.

 

Hope there are more postive comments to come.

And to power ranger, I think you suck more than I do. If you belittle others, you are not that much of a man/woman.

I think my life so far has been great here...yes I had the struggles...the pains..the bad days...and yes nothing came easy to me..had to work hard for each cent...but I do know that had I been back home..I would have no easy way too...yes my parents had a good house back home...my dad has a car..life was easy...but to continue and add fortune to what my parents had, I would have had to work hard in Nepal too..I don't think life is easy anywhere..

my point is...I feel good that I came here..