I was in class, as usual trying to sleep, but something did turned my mind came outta the class and wrote my mind.

LOVE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!what is love ???????? as a matter of fact I dunno the meaning?.. I mean its vague, any one can define it in their own way. Its like liquid, which takes the shape of the container. So here container is the person who defines it. It is the best definition I can put. No one really knows what love is and what it is all about. Every one feels it, every one talks bout it and blah blah blah blah???????.. but do the people really understand the meaning ??????????????? I dunno. There are lotza stories bout love, so called love sotries like Romeo and Juliet, Heer and Rajha. Ram and Sita, Radha and Krishna and yada yada yada yada yada??????. I can go on. But all of them has a similarity, none of them lived happily ever after or did they ???????? I don?t think so. Love hurts, its pain in back, it keeps on hurting and still u want it, but Y ?
Someone has said, dunno who ?????? but said, love is to give not to take, Love is to lose, not to win. Is it true ??????????might be, all the storied above suggests that this statement is true. Y am I explaining all these????????????? Khai ? love is illusion, confusion, delusion, fallacy and wat not ? it is more vague and vast than universe. *study universe and study love* I got the choice, I choose I study universe, it is easier to study in comparision. Mahadev (god of all gods) had carried the dead body of his wife all around the world for years (this is just a belief, but might be true as well), that is love. And after sometime, married different girl, that was also love. Which one was true ??????? Both !!!!!!!! Well I was in love some time ago. I would say long time ago. I still dunno, was that a true love, or infatuation or sexual attraction or physical attraction or ?????
How do people know bout true love ?????????????? I sacrificed a lot for a girl and what did I get ????? nothing. A rejection after some time. People say there shouldn?t be any expectation in love, ok, great, but is it true in real life ?????? Hell noooooo People are very selfish, every one is selfish.

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I wold like to set what I have written as a background of the story. But i need your comment and suggestions. Open to comment and debate.

harkeDai

I think girls (for most girls ..just to be on the safe side) would have no problem remaining friends even after being asked to go out on the date or something like that and have rejected the person. It's a problem of a guy (most of the time) who doesn't want to remain friends. Speaking from what i have seen and from experience, most of the time they have remained friends even after being rejected.
Unless of course..u don't know the person at all and you ask them to marry you or something...then maybe there is a chance that you might scare away the person completely...

May be mars was once populated and they realised the meaning of love by every inch and in out. Today, there is no population in mars coz they got it all................
.............so the moral of this story is ....leave love alone !!!!
enjoy both the bitter and sweet part of love and stop analyzing....if u want to live :-D

I did propose a girl and she was speechless. she didn't say "yes" or "no". How should I take that, AeutiKT?
Please suggest me.

-u_day

did propose a girl and she was speechless. she didn't say "yes" or "no". How should I take that, AeutiKT?
Please suggest me.>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
bro lai Aeutikt le ta suggestion diyena, sanskrit ma yeuta ukhaan cha kyaara.
"MAUNA SAMMATI LAKCHYANAM"

I hope u understand what i am saying here.

oii..didn't know someone asked me a question. Simple answer to that, is take it as a no...she probably has her hearts set on someone else. But then it also depends on her reaction. I mean ... she can be speechless in so many ways...

L= Lake of Sorrows
O= Oceans of Tears
V= Valley of Death
E= End of Life
That's what I'd say LOVE is, Harke Dai...
Cheerio

GO ON GUYS!!
THATS THE SPIRIT:)

harkeydai enjoyin hmm go on ....

AeutiKT and harkeDai:
I have similar problem too. But she is not speeachless. She just keeps on saying "life is uncertain we don't know what will happen". It is damn hard to believe that she is saying "no". It is also hard to believe that she means "yes". But, we have not stopped taling each other. We frequently talks and I frequently ask the same question and get the same response. How should I take this? Help me gals. I will invite you all in my marriage ............

hancyguy, i am not a gal, but here are my thoughts anyway. The girl thinks that you are OK, but is not sure if you are the one. you might be her backup, which is why she does not reject you outright. so she is stalling, hoping for something better. if nothing better comes along, she knows that she has a fall back option.

there are plenty of fish in the sea. i say you should start looking for other candidates. if none of you succeeds, you still have each other as backup. but this is not the ideal situation because the girl does not seem to be completely in love with you....but hey, few marriages are based on everlasting true love.

i may be wrong here. there is a possibility that she does think that you are the one, but is not ready to commit to marriage yet. you need to confront her face to face and figure out the truth...i hope i am wrong about the stalling, in which case i will email you my address for the wedding invitation...

i totally agree with zalim..a friend is not necessarily love..love not necessarily the hubbyy..

my philosophies for marriage is knowingly for sure that he;s gonna be my partner rest ofmy life...a partnership to the minute details like understanding when to make the coffe and when to give space....i hope that i make the right decision when marrying..marriage therefore is a permanent varaible..i hate people marrying ending in divorces..specially when kids are involved..so take as much time before decide..

love is a result of a playful heart...sometimes i have bf just cuz the y are so nice that i casn't say no..sometimes i just need someone to be around with...sometimes i need a date so badly to attend that function..sometimes its just curioussity what cud happen if i went out with this person..no past no future..usually it ends in short span of time..and when the notion of love wanes out we become normal people..we're mostly friendly but with lovers, hey you don't wanna go back the same trail..unless you seriously want him back..love is a random variable

Frens..hey you either get along with a person the first time or you don't, once you do there's no looking back...bad times good times..a friend is a friend is a friend...you might kiss a friend and you might kill him too..but he's a friend..girls and guys should be friends..for reasons beyond what i can grasp-from helping to grooming, shopping, datin g, finances, the interiors, barbeque dinners, knwing the toolkit in the car, fighting against other guys, places to go..i guess friends are eternal and not variables...

yet i wudn't date a fren because he knows too much..too boring...and i won't marry my date..unless.im pretty sure i can still keep the charms even after i marry

Yo MAYA bhanne chij yestai ho ..........

Hancyguy, want to add on what Zalim Singh said. Yeh, thats very much true. May be not all but many gals just can't say yes or no outright in the illusion that they might get a better man. The more you insist, the more stubborn they become. So, the best thing is once you express her about your intention, wait a few time for her reply. If you don't get a yes soon, just put your mind away from her. Otherwise, it affects your life.

I had this gal years back, liked her, loved her and told everything I wanted to tell her. She just kept silent neither yes nor a no. I wanted a firm reply but she would never give me her words. Damn, her love affected everything of mine but I wouldn't get any clue.I was dissappointed. ---------- Now years passed by, recently I got her mail at my office's mailbox, she saying that she still remembers me and my words. What a tragedy? I can't trust her now. Coz she couldn't trust me when I trusted her. Does love have anything to do with the consequences of life? Love with reservations can't be a love I decided this and said no to her latest offer with a heavy heart.

all of the above are true...but there are cases where zalim mentioned where it's just a commitment issue. Or maybe the person could be waiting for some stability in that person's own life before making a big decision.

zalimSingh, Hushpuppy, Amazing, newuser, AeutiKT
thanks for different perspectives. I am thining not to hurt myself and my objective for being here in the US on this matter. Let's time decide this matter. "Times and tide wait for no man".

yes yes...keep your priorities straigh hancyguy

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