Hello all suitable single guys out there, where do you go to meet your other half? I am in my late 20s and after getting so many pressure from my family, I decided to look for my own Mr. right.
Yeah, I was a little on pressure but I also think this is the time. I am well educated and have a stable job. I am not looking for anyway to change my status. And again, I do not think that should be the only reason to get married.
This is my first time looking for my Mr. Right but I do not know how to start. I checked out neaplmatrimonial.com but somehow it looks like just an extended version of shaadi.com for small audience of Nepal.
So if you think you know something about how to proceed, give me suggestions.
Thanks

hyper, I guess you mean only the sex is different (the thread contents still remain the same: looking for a life partner, ain't it??).  Hey, do a good deed and fix the 2 up.  A match made in heaven or sajha for that matter!

interesting elaboration to the discussion by rato and samsara. i feel that both you guys have some points and if i may lemme try to find a middle ground between your respective views.

we know, with the development of communication, world has shrunk to a smaller place. be it love or arranged marriage, i think its very imperative for people to expand their visibility and become accessible to as large as possible network of people so as to give them better/easier ways of finding the right person or the prospective ones.

in older days, and still evident in our societies, mediators used to initiate and proceed talks between the two parties. arranged marriage is hardly possible if there is no medium in-between for interconnection. medium is an absolute must for communication. things have changed in recent times and internet has grown and has undoubtedly become a good medium for interactions. agree, virtual world can be deceiving and one should be aware of any kind of surprise/shock/deceit or other adverse implications that may come with it. but nonetheless, there is no denying that it does help bringing people together. so potentially yes, sajha can also help you find your mr./ms. right...we just don't know the the probability of success/failure or pleasant surprise and deceit.

and no one is loser here. some people are shy/loners by nature so they would, if possible, try to avoid parties and public places. doesn't mean they are any less attractive--physically or otherwise.

So after all u gonna dive in black hole.......... there is nothing a head.............

Hello All again, nice to know so many opinions. I am very surprised with some of the reactions, and always there are some chankhe dais who cannot wish well for others and they cannot do better in their own life as well. All I have to say to them is try to see a glass half full. For those all I have to say is I pray for god so that you can do better in life.
I like many opinions about going out in public, club and friends. I am well OK outgoing girl. I enjoy party and club with club soda so that not even by mistakenly any men out there take advantage of me being girl. I do not want to go further in this one- everybody has different opinion and I respect your freedom of thinking and speaking and the final out come taking action.
I mentioned in the email before that I had approach by foreigners and white guys and they are most from work and friends' friends. I have a very few Nepalese friends. The reason for this is in my last few years I moved around a lot. I just want to clear one thing that some of the things I explain here so that people who believe in me and give their suggestions will know that their effort is really appreciated .
I may find someone from sajha. I received so many nice emails and many of them are really so generous and related to my problems. Some of emails are from the girls who are facing the same situation as I do. One email is funny one; this person does not even think that I am a girl. I do not have to say much besides this that it is not you it is the world we live in- always doubtful. Some people who think sajha is not worthy place to be, I found they might be wrong. Ofcourse some a-wholes are always there to spoil the moment. So many of their own- may be cousin, sisters, brothers and so many others have this problem and they are having fun at our expenses. Again, all I can do to make you feel better is pray god for your good healtha and you never have to go through my circumstance. 
People who think I am really ugly or I have selfesteem issue. I do not think so. I still get many phone numbers when I go to club but again I know my culture and my boundaries. Please just do not humiliate yourself mocking me on this one. I am as much as undiluted as any ones sister and I am as much pretty as your want to be gf.
Said too much I think, sometime it just personal but matters many...

hahaha  Loote, good analysis but I still think discussion forums are the worst places to look for prospective mates.  I think we should be indifferent when it comes to who posts such a thread (looking for Mr/Ms Right).  I've seen how peeps blasted rajkpandey and his likes and now that the sexual gender is reversed, we've all suddenly changed to be politically correct and be more soft towards the female seeking a solution to the same issue.  Lets be equal opportunists here fellas.  hahaha

Now, internet is good in soliciting peeps but discussion forums certainly are not (the social-networking sites where we can see the pics of the ladies who we would wanna meet/know...also sites like facebook/hi5 let you know if the person is for real as you have the same group of friends and you also get to know something about them in most cases that can be used to your advantage).  LOL  BTW, I seriously don't even know if I'm speaking to a female/male or an IT whenever I type my posts here. 

hahaha..samsara,
well, rkpandey (or whatever his name was) was a slightly different case. he used this sajha discussion forum(kurakani) as a 'pakka' matrimonial site and whatever he wrote for the matrimonial, he simply copied and pasted here in kurakani. the dude used to revive his thread every week with his thank-you note hahaha...well, anyways, my all the best to him for his quest for partner(s). :P

natali, on the other hand, is just seeking for suggestions about 'where' to go for her mr. right. at times, people find themselves in dilemma and hence in need of views/suggestions of other people to help themselves in their cause. i don't find it funny or obtrusive.

but i am with you on the doubt on authenticity of a public forum like sajha which basically is a sea of people and their views/intent. hahaha..

It's funny how this thread got twisted. Isn't it obvious, like Lootekukur pointed out, that rkpandey was looking for a "lady for marriage purpose" right *here* in this forum and natali is simply asking for *suggestions* as to how and where to meet guys? Is that difference really blurry or are people just pretending for the kick of it?

And what's up with meeting people in real life being a "proven technique"? If these techniques are so "proven" like Samsara says, how come there are so many matrimonial sites out there making money? Or are we lumping everyone who has not met his/her partner offline as being so dumb that they resort to those matrimonial sites when there are these "proven techniques" roaming around?

Oh, and what's wrong with being desperate for sex, that you have to say it almost in the tone of "oh, shit, you are in deep shit"? Last time I checked sex was some natural phenomenon both men and women need. Or did I just miss the evolution of mankind here?

And, it hurts :) when people who post in this forum on Saturday night are labeled as having no life. I mean, some of us have WORK and coming to Sajha is the only break we take!

Loote,

Ke ho para ali thik chaina ni. Boka Boka ganaye jasto lagyo ta malai ta!.

funny  how people suddenly turns  marriage counselor, psychiastric or psuedo dai didi or deep analyzer for simple question. Yes 24 is right age to look for if not immediate marriage otherwise 25,26,27.... before you know it's  too late. Biological clock does not wait friends, sympathy or plus minus. It's all up to you when you feel like and when you think it's right. You're looking for some connection to start, mr. 100% right is not the initial target but desired goal, understood clearly so initiate something all over. Sending text email  is not like face to face so kick the shyness and be brave .

M.P, who obviously did less reading on my post than the village idiot did milking cows...Listen, I say the proven techniques being; going out, meeting people and also the internet except for discussion boards (which I stressed in all of my 5 posts above: Discussion Boards...See it??).  BTW. The last I heard as of one second ago, online matrimonial sites are still not considered discussion boards.  Also, There is no way one could hide their identity in matrimonial sites as one could in in online forums.  For all I care, natali1 could be a he.  If you get what I'm saying, online forums are the worst place to look for prospective mates.  Hell, I could be Brad Pitt or even the King of Nepal here (not just a lowly M.P).  LOL 

Samsara, Online forums may be the worst place to look for prospective mates, but I doubt if they are the worst place to look for *suggestions* on where to meet new people. I thought I had made this distinction clear before, but I guess I failed.

Other than that, may be your are right, but even if Natali1 is a guy, heck, the problem still sounds legitimate to me (and this applies even if someone with alias "Brat Pitt" or "King of Nepal" posts it)! 

Natalie:
I guess it all depends on your nature and how you want to initially interact. Also on your social boundaries like you have pointed out.

I used to live with an American couple where the husband was a lawyer with a prestigious firm and the wife was a designer and their home was like a mansion. I was a paying guest for some time. They seem to be so much in love and so social with their friends and all. But i was really surprixed to learn that they first met online. Even i thought online forums were for losers or with 'out of date' people but it does not seem so. Even look at all indians, they seem to all end up on the Shaadi forums.

The lady told me that she always wanted to met this 'mysterious' man and send him letters and all wordy stuff and thus the online site helped her and she met her 'mysterious' man there. She seemed very sociable in real life and loved parties and all but she prefered other means to find the guy.

So i guess it depends on how much effort you want to take upon yourself and also how easy you feel in interaction. If you do not drink and going to bar/club is not your scene. You do not like Nepali gatherings because all programs seem the same and you do not have big friends circle of Nepalis, then what options do you have.

And honestly, i am sure there are lot of Nepali guys who dislike public gatherings too.

Well, hoping for a 'Happy Ending'. Keep us posted.

hahaha..
of course there are pros and cons with everything in life hoina?

did you guys read that weird news that came out sometime back? like there was this dude (around 23 yrs. old) who fell in love with a woman of her mother's age through internet. they used to write and write and write for each other and they couldn't help falling for each other after few days.
so one day they decided to exchange their photographs. and when they did that, they were in utter shock. turned out that the woman was none other than his OWN MOM hahahahahahahahahahaha...

narayangarh,
boka boka gaanyo re? no wonder since you have made an entry into this thread hahahahahahaha

I have just one point to make.

"Online" isnt the worst place to be looking for someone who you want to start a relationship with. And it isnt an "out-of-date" methodology. In fact, it is getting popular as you have less time to "hang-out"!!!

Personally, i dont see any difference to start knowing each other online/offline. The big difference is : solely, coming to a judgment of the other person online alone. May work, may not work most of times!

One thing for sure that "online" acquaintances help is to filter out your types. Filtering is a hard task to do, at least for a person like me, once you meet the other one. Think you got what i mean.

By the way, i would want the thread starter to know that almost every people on this planet have to go through these relationships flicks and everyone seeks for a better match, not necessarily perfect!

Sheetalb says: "I used to live with an American couple where the husband was a lawyer with a prestigious firm and the wife was a designer and their home was like a mansion. I was a paying guest... "  WTF??

Damn, you've got to be shitting me here.  I still can't fathom why any couple with such a good job and living "in a mansion" would ever opt to have a paying guest (when I think of paying guests, I think of students/young adults who cannot afford much rent).  This makes NO damn sense at all.  I'd expect peeps who live in apartments to have roomates or even in moderate houses to have paying guests (still rare here) but c'mon someone in a mansion looking for a paying guest??  Next time, pls know that there are peeps here who do not follow the herd and will shut down anyone trying to pull wool over their eyes.

 

wondering . how did I miss this thread . hey thread originator, dont look for anywhere .. I am here  .. alone .. not bad looking .. ... mid 20 es .. LOL .. ready to get married .. what about me ???? Let's be the first couple to get married in Sajha..

Natali if you keep searching a guy 2 be your other half than u might make a quick decision and later .....it might not be as u have thought or hoped so be patience and resist the pressure and wait until someone might come along ur way. You might meet him anywhere anyplace but my suggestion would be not to serach him like u need it badly .Good luck and who knows u might meet him infront of ur door or internet or anywhere else.

Natali, You never know where you find him so keep on looking....Everything will happen in the right time. By the way join Group called " Sajhaholics" in facebook. You will meet all the people from Sajha..Who knows may be one of them is your worst half....

Ujj, "Sajhaholics" on facebook??  hahahah...Now lemme check that out as I need to find a few faces I need to knock some sense into.