I came to Usa the land of oppertunities six years back. life is good. I love the freedom and the facilities i take for granted every day. But there is a void somewhere in me. I miss my family although some of my siblings are living with me. I miss everything about nepal ( specially in these recent years). Those Pani Puris, Chatpate, Authentic buff momos, being in peace and having a lot of friends that you can hang out with and not worry about going to work after 4 hours.Now peace has been eastablished i am thinking of going back for good. Nepals life is slow you drag through your day and even mange to get afternoon sleep. Here you dont know how the last year passed? I just remember working my A.. off and crying when dashin thihar comes by. End of story.... I Am going back.  I have heard stories about people going back and repenting ...and i have heard stories about people going back and doing better than up here( And they get to stay with their family ).I actually have  a plan to make acertain amount of money before going back and of course finishing my studies? I am not asking if i am right or wrong? my question is are you going back? your country, to your family. i am not juding you either ,nor should anyone else. its just a healthy discussion. Tell me Are you going BACK?

In fact, it is one of most difficult question, I ever had. I had these thoughts million times but every thing in life is relative, means six years ago probably you have single mission, just tough the country of oppertunity, USA. After six years, you need is different than before. At the same time, lot of things are situational, more the people like us, who had lot of restrictions, either by immigration or family or a way we grow up. One of the major factor is age. If you come in undergrad, probably you might be more comfortable with this system. But when you come in graduate, then even if you have better life comparatively than undergard because you don't have to do that much struggle but still you have a gap in society, you feel more lonely, more responsible and more different than this society.I feel preety old fashioned, definitely I had been to bars and clubs, seen every aspect of life but never feel, it is my part of life. I always feel I am some what at the pavement, not in a main road. Ok, I came to do master's engineering, done, had good job, wife's visa rejected, going to quit this job, apply phd and got scholarship and going back home and try for both, let's see what would happen.

It will be fine timer.... Just keep on doing what you are..

My best wishes for you and your wife.

 

NepaliThita

going back???? f.u.c.k. off... there is no question of going back to the hell.... after all what u missed was some food items and peoples around u.... but u can think in some other way, what u gained in these six years.... work is a part of human being, but u have to enjoy ur work.... instead of overworking, u should work for just proper amount of time, then u'll start enjoying what u do.... and remember one thing, wherever u go, whichever place, think that it is ur home and u have to live here.... this how, confidence builts up and u'll enjoy ur stay... u can't get descent job in nepal which will help you to live happily... and there are several risks from different things to start own business too... so, when u r habituated of metro life in US then u can't adjust and live in Nepal.. u will feel to runaway within 6 months.... Nepal is only better to live relaxed life i.e. after ur retirement... or say at old age...