Dear Friends,

I was in love for almost 4 years and my GF got married due to family pressure. She has kids now and her husband died. I love her a lot and does she to me. Everytime she says that she is worried about me because I am not married and it is because of her. However, I am not ready to marry anyone  because I am studying and I have to make my career. Recently, she stopped talking to me and we are out of contact for almost 2 months. when we talked for the last time, she said she loves me more than anything else in this planet. But she says when she talks to me, she gets hurt and feels she spoiled my life.

Confusion here is,1)  if she loves me why she stops talking to me.
2) Does it hurt when you see or talk to the person you love. My feeling is it gives more happiness when you talk or see your loved one.

This is true and happened to me, can anyone please tell me is this the real love? and is it a good idea to ignore the person whom you love the most?

Thanks for your feedback and suggestions !!

dude if you really do love her then why dont you marry her again? afterall her husband has already died...she is seeking a life partner too like you and the most important thing is u guys love each other.....so wat are u waiting for?

"Confusion here is,1)  if she loves me why she stops talking to me."

: Fear & doubts.

2) Does it hurt when you see or talk to the person you love. My feeling is it gives more happiness when you talk or see your loved one.

Yes, if U r aware U'll never have that person in ur life : loss.

Fear, Doubts & Loss.

 

 

 

Thanks Mohit for suggestion,

hey friends
I proposed to marry her, but she denied saying that she does not want to ruin my life because I am unmarried and our society does not accept it.

I love her a lot. she never picks my phone and never replies for my emails.

I could not study these days. If she just speaks to me, my whole day goes happily. I dont want to force her to accept me. She says she is doing this to forget me even though she loves me till the end of her life. she says that I will marry another girl and thats why she wants to forget me, however, she will love me forever.  I love her a lot and could not see her problems. Friends what will be my best step for future?

I thought Love always is the re-union of two souls. But I could not decide is this the Love, excess Love or what?

Thanks friends for your suggestions.

Spear Head Sir,

This is what usually happens in ones life. I'm not a professional to comment over your realtion but i have also experienced some kind of love. Friend, I can see some kind of purity in your heart and love coz' you are trying to bring her in your life.

The most important part what I could figure out is " you two love eachother the most". This is very important in any realtion. Apart from that, it's your step and you have to think twice before you make any decision. Well, Think twice in this matter before you decide to marry.. " Will you be able to hold the realtion nomatter what your parents and society think of?" Will you be able to dedicate yourself to her after all those things what has happend to her in her life? If yes, my friend, don't even think any more, try to get hold of her by anyway by friends or her relatives, and try to make her understand what you want and what you wish? You should be able to let her know and try to convience that "she is the only one who brings smile in your face, whose presence make your day bright".

There are many challenges after you make any decision so think of it and go for it if your heart says you to do that. And beware that there will be many hard turns in your life, like anyone does, so stop for a moment and think of it.

All can say for now is.. Best Of Luck  and May you get the love of your life.

Bleeded Heart