First thing first. I would like to congratulate Ms. Vidhya Bhandari for becoming the second president of Nepal, first female President of Nepal, and first President of New Nepal.
However, I see Nepalese people in general holding mixed feelings towards her political achievement. Would she have reached there without Mr. KP Oli, the prime minister of Nepal? I doubt like many others. Why? Well, there are lots of bitching about them. With all these bitchings, I felt I must say something to all the readers out there, because it's very important for everyone out there to think like me and believe like my in this matter. Let me start from myself.
I am not so old, just an 80s born, who were kid until world entered millennium era. I vaguely remember Madan Bhandari's death and talks around amongst my dad and his friends and neighbors and medias then. I didn't care much though. I could hear here and there people linking KP Oli with Vidhya Bhandari. Then, I grew up, got busy with my own youthfulness, rock music and western world and I cared less about Nepal politics and politicians. Then came "Ganatantra," then came rise of politicians and their power and influences and then came KP Oli as president of UML and Vidhya Bhandari as VP. By this time, I was matured enough to understand laugh and taunt and bitch about these two, behind their backs. Now, here we are -- KP Oli as a prime minister of Nepal and Vidhya Bhandari as president. I see netizens talking all kind of talks about them. WOW! bitching that was started by our father's generation is passed down to my generation and also some early 20s. We all have been bitching. Amazing people we are. We are bitching about two elders without any proofs, without any base, purely based on assumptions circulated by elders and we all are taking those speculations for grant and carrying on bitching.
How cool is that? Oh, they are politicians, so bound to be a subject of slandering and taunting, right? NO!
This is the most stupid thing and the most shameful thing and classless character I have been witnessing among netizens. And here is something, I want everyone to keep in mind.
Mr. KP Oli and Ms. Vidhya Bhandari aren't just a politician. They are human. They are not just a lone human. They have a family and children. Mr. KP Oli has a wife, she works somewhere in a bank or school I suppose. Ms. Vidhya Bhandari is a widow, has got daughters somewhere. Mr. KP Oli's wife surely has got friends and colleagues at her workplace and that she goes out with. Same with Ms. Bhandari's daughter. Now ask yourself,
how it feels to be a wife of a man who is linked with another woman.
how it feels to be a daughter of a woman who is labelled as a bitch.
Step into the shoes of Mr. KP Oli's wife and ask yourself, how insecure she may feel or how embarrassed she may feel to call herself as a wife of Mr. KP Oli, a wife who is believed to be not loved, not prioritized .
How much daughters of Ms. Vidhya Bhandari must be hurt when they hear people defaming her mother by linking it to another married man.
How can people be so insensitive, especially, when there is no proof or base or logic behind the made up stories. It's not okay in first place to allege others without a strong proof. NOT AT ALL OKAY to question their morality and ethics purely based on speculation, that too in society like Nepal. IT IS JUST INSANE. As said above, they are not just politician. They are someone's husband, someone's father, someone's mother, someone's in-law. Those wife, those children, those in-laws have friends beyond the political arena. Shaming KP Oli and Vidhya Bhandari as "two human in extramarital affair" isn't just defamation of these two humans but also defamation of Radhika Shakya, their children if any, and daughter of Vidhya Bhandari. Imagine your mother is linked to other man. Imagine your partner is linked with other woman. THIS IS EXACTLY HOW IGNORANT SOCIETY BEHAVES and you are fueling the ignorance.
Do you think you are doing right by bitching about these two people?
"Smoke does not come without fire." That must be your point of reference. Let me give you simple perspective.
Suppose you are a guy. You had a best friend (male), you both grew up in same profession. You got married and your friend too married with his lover. Now you two best friends were two best married couples. You loved your wife, he loved his wife. Two family used to go around, doing all kinds of fun. Now, overtime, your bestfriend's wife became your friend too and friend of your wife too. Life was wonderful until one day, your best friend died in an accident. You were emotionally shattered. You looked at his wife, you looked at his daughter and you felt really really bad. You knew how much he meant to her, you knew how much the daddy meant to her daughter. Would you just abandon your best friend's wife and daughter just because now he is dead?? I would not. I would make sure I would take care of his wife and his daughter as much as mine. I don't need to be romantically involved with her and still take care of her because that's what a best friend does. I would promise her, "don't worry, I will take care of you and your daughter." My wife too would stand by me and take care of her and her daughter.
What if that's the story between KP Oli and Vidhya Bhandari? What if KP Oli and Madan Bhandari were just like that two good friends and after his demise, Mr. KP Oli stood by the widow and her daughter? That can be possible right? During his godfather role and during his caretaker role, what if people were misinterpreting his generosity and sacrifice as affair? That's what ignorant pea-sized brains do. THEY BITCH coz for them anything between two opposite sex is only about SEX and ROMANCE. They are not evolved enough to understand friendship without romance, they are not evolved enough to understand what a human can do to fellow human without sexual benefit. Moreover, they are stupid jerks who always look down at widow and single mother and grown up woman. What if Vidhya Bhandari is victim of such mindsets?
Human relationship is much beyond sex, much beyond financial gains, Many of us are just too young to understand types of relationships, and many of us are too primitive and ignorant to not understand the gray area that lies between human bonding. So, my request to you. STOP BITCHING about these two humans, because these two humans have other humans related with them, who maybe finding life tough and living hard because you have been bitching about these two humans, without any base, without any knowledge on their true selves, simply because elders passed down the bitching.
To me, KP Oli must have been a best friend or good friend of Madan Bhandari and has been taking care of his wife and daughter as a promise to his best friend because just like me, just like you, it's a duty of a best friend to take care of his love and blood in his absence. That's the divine promise KP Oli must have made to his friend, Madan Bhandari and thus always takes her by his side --- made her VP and made her President without caring what the ignorant society may bitch about as long Radhika Shakya understands his trueself.
That's how I take it, that's how everyone should take it, unless there is a proof to prove me wrong.
p.s. Calling someone a bad politician is one thing but calling the same person bad husband or wife without a proof is INSANE
source: http://www.kaagmandumagazine.com/2015/10/why-do-some-bitch-about-kp-oli-and.html?m=1
