I am a married man but I have been in relation with a girl for nearly 2 years and now i left her bcoz i am gonna have a baby soon. i dont understand myself i love my wife a lot but in another hand i love this girl too and we go on very well feels like i have spent the most exciting life with her in these 2 years.i share most with her than my wife doesnt mean that i dont love my wife. i just dont understand wot was happening to me but now i broke off with her just bcoz she said something nasty about my unborn baby. did i do right? well i think so bcoz this relation wasn't gonna work for long we both knew that.i am really missing her though i have said lots of nasty thing saying i will never see her again. What should i do.........HELP.......!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I dont have any sympathy for a man like you. You are what I would call a parasite who sucks into other people's blood. I mean seriously, you love both your wife and that girl.. how pathetic is that? Plus it is plainly obvious that you were having sex with both of them at the same time and that one of them got pregnant you decided that it is upto you to make a decision for all three of you!!

The truth is that you have already screwed up your wife's life. (I would not say you screwed up your or your mistress' life because both of you made decisions knowing the truth!!) If you divorce her she will have to live through the humiliation of a divorce if she finds out and decides to divorce you otherwise she will have to live with you and see your pathetic loser face all her life. And now she is pregnant so if she divorces you, she will probably face worse consequences... i.e having to raise the kid by herself.

If you had thought from your brain instead of your genitals, your life would have been simpler!!

गुमसुम भी नही गुन्जन भी नही...
प्याले मे कुच बचा है वो भी जवाफ नही...
couple of lines rakshi khada lekheko...so lets switch over from sad sad to so so...
कहिले रमझम छ आज भन्यो
कहिले श्यामली भनेर भट्टायो....
कहिले amy को पार्टीमा कहिले jenyको
कहिले के कहिले के....
आधा अधुरो जिन्दगी मा एती शास्थी किन
आधा अधुरो जिन्दगी को एती हिसाब किन

nothing so good...afterall kishne the jerk...

Yeah, he's pretty sick at the same time, "i love my wife a lot but in another hand i love this girl too and we go on very well feels like i have spent the most exciting life with her in these 2 years" Geez, just get a whore instead of playing with people's lives, kid. But he's got me ROFCing and ROFLing at the same time.

i know i am wrong in every inch.......let me give u the picture of my life......My wife who loves me a lot and she is my perfect wife we have been togetherin love for 9 years and married for 3 years now....for last 2 years i have been with this girl who i spend most of my time bcoz we work together i have known her for 5 years now and dont know wot happend we start loving each other, everything we did looks and sound so exciting felt like we were ment to be for each other.....and so on.....we both knew its not right but still could not leave each other.....so we carried on .....we use to have lots of argument but later again some how we went on well.....could not stop ....as i said only after when she said something nasty about my unborn baby i went mad at her and havent seen or spoken to her..........

i am not upset with any comments given by u all as i give u all full rights to say wot so ever to me........but i am sorry i need some help to overcome this hell life and all bad feelings i have in me now.........:-(

I know i was harsh out there but you seriously screwed up!! The only thing you can do now is admit everything to your wife and be prepare for the worst. It will bring you a lot of sadness I guess, but then at the end of the day, you will feel good about having finally done the right thing!!

it seems like you love both women. why not marry the other one as well and all three of you live together? jethilai aamaile rojeko, kanchhilai aafaile khojeko ...sth sth bhanne geet chha ni...hahaha...:P

jokes aside, don't feel bad! what's done is done, gone is gone! you can't correct your past but you certainly can improve your present for a better future. if you want my honest suggestion, don't tell anything to your wife. you've broken up with that girl for the time being, no? let it remain broken up for good. sachhi! leave the job if you guys work together. leave the damn city, if need be. i know, it's gonna be hard but that's how you're gonna resirrect your conjugal life. leave every trace of that girl behind, dig a 100 feet hole and bury everything about her. run for a marathon (no kidding) and try to forget every little thing about that girl.

then go back to your wife fresh--without a tinge of that girl's memory and hug your wife and listen to your unborn kid from her tommy :P....start a new life man...it's never too late. be a man! stop crying in sajha or elsewhere! :D

all the best!

LooTe

Something about this girl......whenever we use to fall out and i dont speak to her she use to blackmail me kind of that she is gonna tell everthing about the relation to my wife and lot other but for some reason i knew she will never do something like that to me. this is the only time she didnt blackmail me might be she is sorry for wot she have said to my unborn baby......i do trust her that she will never say to my wife....she does love me seriously....she is a white british girl......in a way i am glad i met her coz she have helped me a lot in times those days when i really needed but now i feel like i should have never met her.....i am really lost amn't i ??????

Suggestors make me rofl. J/K.

Your story is little bit like in the hindi Silsila (1980) after the part when Amitabh discovers that his wife is pregnant with this baby, he ends the passionate affair with Rekha abruptly.

Beings married with a kid should change the ball game entirely. Stopping to fool around should be a good step.

My honest opinion.:)

haha...looks like mabf hadn't had fun in sajha for a long time. poor us, taking it seriously and suggesting him to do this and that hahahaha....

that said, there could be someone somewhere on the same or similar boat as his (if he's not faking). that's why i am bothering to reply re ke ajhai. :D
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mabf,

what you mean you're lost? you're still to decide on whom to go for and whom to leave or what?

look,

it was not gonna work like this forever, was it? wife at home and mistress (sorry to use this word, but could not find any audibly soothing name to your relationship with that girl) at work... at one point, sooner or later, you're gonna go with ONE, hoina? you canNOT be loving two persons at the same time. tell me, how would you have treated your wife had she cheated on you? try putting yourself on her shoes!

addiction is hard but not impossible to overcome. just because she helped you in the past, doesn't mean you have to live your entire life with her cheating your innocent wife. if you want to do that, sure go ahead and tell your wife that you're gonna divorce her. can you do that? if not, then quit the darn addiction, once and for all! you will be left ALONE if you keep on putting your feet on two boats at the same time. wake up man! wake up before it's too late!

Before we take this farther ahead, should we all not ask
Mabf, what 'Mabf' stands for?

At the first glance, 'Mabf' looks like 'My Boyfriend'.
With that, I am now confused where Mabf is a man or a woman and what his sexual orientation is.

If I am guessing wrong, could you please clarify what your login name mean?
:)

Messages seem a bit womanish but MABF could stand for anything else too right. ;D

and doesn't the title sound like PATI PATNI OR WOH? hahahaha...

seems like i'm wasting my already depreciated 2 freaking cents for a mockery thread. :P

am outta here....before i start hitting myself ;-)

LOLOL Loote!
yeah you are right,PATI PATNI OR WOH?

So much time wasted.

This is the perfect example of Collateral Damage (strictly TIMEwise)

Loote!
"depreciated two cents"?
Uh Huh?
Buy a coffee maker instead of buying a Rs 200+/cup Starbucks every morning to work.
;p

My time wasn't wasted, it was pretty foony. ;]

seems like everybody getting confuse now....well i am in london....i am a guy.....MABF is a computer login to my work computer well the full login is MABF21ia...this is my first posting in sajha so dont know wot to keep as log in name thought to use this...i am glad that everyone took lots of intrest well saying about "PATI PATNI OR WOH" yes that relates to the topic coz it is.....i am trying to sort things out....please dont take things back after giving it.....feeling bad as u all start to think i am faking dont know wot to say more its all right i have get the general views from u all and i am happy for that and thanks to all and sajha too......i am gonna be with my wife and my baby. thats the answer to u all.....

Jai Nepal
Nick man paryo.
mabf: metric attended but failed

Wot? lol. ;O

mabf,

good job! that's the spirit! good on you my boy :P

hyde,

sure will from tomorrow. but what about lunch? is there anything called "lunch-maker" or tying the knot is the last and only resort? :D

hey mabf,
i kinda took a look at all the things u had to say n all the things that ppl had to say about u n ur situation.....i am not an expert in this matter but if u go according to me n if u trust this lady......
dont tell ur wife anything about any of this stuff. but then this is IF u TRUST this lady with ur deepest n darkest secret of ur life......
i mean u obviously love ur wife....u r a Fu**ed up guy....no comments on that...u already messed up ur life real bad....not only urs..but think about ur wife n think bout that unborn baby.....they r gonna have to suffer BCOZ of ur freakin "love"......
the best thing to do so as to make it up to ur wife...i.e, if u can make up for the blunder that u already made..which i highly doubt....but the closest thing would b to dedicate ur life to ur family..to ur wife n kid.....
tellin her the truth will jus make things worse....n at time like this when shes pregnant ..believe me she does not need this shit......
its better to keep quiet n live ur life n keep ur family happy....
but this option is only if u think u can do it.....only if u can dedicate ur life to ur wife n forget each n every thing about ur past....that way u n ur family can live a nice life.....
its gonna b hard on ur part if u r true but then u get wot u do.........
hope this helped u .....
aite peace
jai nepal