Hi!

I would like some insight to this problem related to Same Gotra marriage.

I didn't ask about her gotra when it all started. Now I can not move back and she thinks her family will not accept us because we belong to same gotra. We have different surnames so I didn't anticipated this problem at the begining.

 

Anyone who have any insight or experience about the remedy of this problem will be very much appreciated.

Lau saathi ho euta sajha basi ko kalyan garnu paryo. I was even thinking of converting to some other religion to avoid all this but if there is any remedy within our cultural system then I would prefer that to conversion.

Thanx in advance for giving attention to my problem

Have a great time.

WTF is Gotra?

Nammaskar,

i do not know much about gotra but it surely sounds like you are in deep shit man. this might not make sense but i would ask for her ID or some paperwork stating her gotra, cause people play games man, she could be tired of your lazy ass and now trying to give you a guilt trip with gotra and shit man ... no disrespect "female dog" could be trying to get rid of you man. seriously. and u worried   about facing Gotra and shit.

 

 

come smoke a joint with me buddy, and keep rolling.. rolling.. rolling  

Oldboy,

You are right. Actually, it was something I wanted to say, but didn't say it earlier.

I have a friend whose girlfriend kept on talking about mother's gotra not being compatible (i.e. mothers coming from same gotra) and the marriage not being suitable for them. Little did my friend knew that she wanted to marry a jerk --albeit rich one-- and move to Australia. It was an extremely dirty trick the girl played on him--but my friend still doesn't realise.  Some people always believe the girl they like likes them, no matter what, and it was their parents' fault. Most of the time, it is the girl who want out and parents serve as a good excuse.

hey, sathi :
don't worry?
first try 2 convince your parents if they are not,
marry on your own.
And how come saha gotriya means marrying sister that;s BS..
I have almost 4 friends who ended up marrying saha gotriya.
don;t worry 2 much on this thing .
You need to go to 19th century to find relationship with some1 in same gotra ..
Take care and take it easy .. :D

All that matter is Love. If you love her from your heart go for it .

Ya Pire,

i have heard quite a few myself.

next time, while i am trying to dip my dong, I'll be like  O Shit!!!  hold on baby, " and whats your gotra again?"  sorry couldn't resist... it would be funny though....

 

everything is fare in love and ....and yes of course there is one solution for sahagotriya marriage..... i,e sahagotyiya marriage is accetable if upto 7 generations of girls and boys family ara not related to eahother...

change your gotra like pn shah did

sansaarma yi yesto pani hudo raichha. timi mj gotra gotra bhandai rudai basa..(7 barsa baasi post bhaye ni kuro ramailo raichha, ani yo news chai apachya. tei vara haande maile ni lauja)
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अनौठो परम्परा, जहाँ बाबुछोरीको बिहे गराइन्छ
कतिपय यस्ता परम्परा हुन्छन् जसका बारेमा सुन्दैमा निकै अप्ठेरो महसुस हुन्छ र लज्जाबोध पनि हुन्छ । सायद आफ्नै बुवासँग कुनै पनि महिलाको बिहे हुने भन्ने कुरा सोँच्न पनि नसकिने कुरा हो । तर बंगलादेशको एक जनजाति समुदायमा भने पुरुषहरुले आफ्नै छोरीसँग बिहे गर्दछन् ।

बंगलादेशको मन्डी जनजाती समुदायमा यो परम्परा प्रचलित रहेको छ । यहाँका युवतीहरु बच्चैदेखि आफ्ना बाबुसँगै बिहे गरेको सपना देख्छन् । किनकी अलिक उमेर बढेपछि उनीहरुको आफ्नै बाबुसँग बिहे गराइन्छ ।

आफुलाई जन्म दिने बुवाको मृत्यु भएर आमाले अर्कै पुरुषसँग बिहे गरेमा पनि छोरीहरुले आफ्नो सौतेलो बुवासँग बिहे गर्दछन् । प्राय आफ्नो लोग्नेको उमेरमै मृत्यु भएको खण्डमा महिलाहरुले आफ्नै परिवारको अर्को पुरुषसँग बिहे गर्ने परम्परा यो जातिमा छ ।

भारत र बंगलादेशमा मन्डी जातिका झण्डै २० लाख जनसंख्या छ । यो जनजातिका मानिसहरुलाई गारो भनेर पनि चिनिन्छ ।

brother, donald_duck le bhanya jasto gotra bhanya demarcation hoina. tyo jasto suicide gar bhanne opinion dine level ko manche ko kura ignore gare huncha. gotra le manche ko lineage identify garcha. tyo jamana ma baneko restriction ko answer aaile science le dincha. eutai gotra/lineage ko individuals ma ustai DNA ani genitic properties share bhako huncha..individuals haru lai ta thikai hola (jabarjasti aafulai modern hu, i dont believe in those things bhanne lai), tara according to science, tesko result risk in infant mental and physical health and birth disorder huncha. world ma thuprai cousin/sibling ko marriage huncha tara thuprai cases ma offspring ma defect bhako evidence cha. Manne namanne aafno kura ho tara yo niyam ko aafnai valid reason cha

tara ma pani tai pidit ho sathi... kai hunna dont worry...all izz well

पहिले ७ पुस्ते छुट्याउथे , घटेर ५ पुस्तेमा झरे अहिले ४ पुस्ते भन्छन |
गोत्र मिलाऊन थाले कुमार भएर बसौला , पुस्ता को कुरा चै लागु गर्नु बेसै होला |

Gotra is important. You can not marry on same Gotra. Nepali Gotra is important for Hindu. It describes love, and destiny.

I am married with someone from the same gotra for the last 12 years. We have two beautiful kids and haven't faced any problem on any pooja or any events. Both our parents were slightly hesitant at first but no one made a big deal out of it, as much as we thought they would.

लसुन-प्याज खायो भने बाहुन को जात जान्छ
क्षेत्री बाहुनले कुखुरा खानु हुदैन, जात जान्छ
सुँगुर त छोयो मात्र भने पनि जात जान्छ, खायो भने शुद्र भइन्छ
मदीरा पिउने ब्राह्मण, क्षत्रिय, र वैश्य को धर्म नष्ट हुन्छ, जात मात्र होइन
गाइको मासु खाने म्लेच्छ हुन्छ, म्लेच्छको जात, धर्म मात्र होइन, वर्ण समेत रहदैन, गोत्र र प्रवर त झन् रहने कुरै भएन.

कि त भएका सबै नियम मान्नु पर्यो, होइन भने बिहे नगर्ने अड्को थाप्ने त गोत्र नै मिलेपछि अरु पनि तरिका छन्:
प्रवर, शाखा, योनी, राशी, माङ्गलिक कि अ-माङ्गलिक, मावलीको गोत्र, र हुदाहुदा काखिमुनी को कोठी वा टाउकामा कतिवोटा भुवरी भनेर पनि निहुँ खोज्न सकिन्छ।

Ok I am facing the same problem now. I did some research and got to know about gotra but I am not leaving him at any cost . That is how much I love him . Does anyone know the common ground we can meet to convince our families ? Also, what solutions are available ? Please help me before it is too late. This gotra thing is going to eat the life out of me . Goddddd

Veronica let your parents know...same gotra means same bloodline. The bloodline goes back several thousand years ago and may be the bloodline has been watered down so much its very unlikely for you to bear dis-formed babies with him. Tell them Ranas and Shahs marry their cousin and only few of them are dis formed and have mental issues.

If you are not leaving him at any cost then your problem is already solved. You can marry him at the COST of your Gotra. : )

You will have to drink Gai ko Mutra to saanta paaring your gotra.
*Bullshit ideology.

This is awfully old thread, 9 years to be precise. Im amazed how beautifully pire had provided insight to gotra. Thanks.