Hi all,
I am a college student who have yet to find her true passion in life. Even though I am in my early twenties, I still don't know what I wanna do for the rest of my life. I feel kinda lost. Sometimes just thinking about the future scares the hell out of me. Do you guys face similar issues? Another question I wanna ask is ,What motivates you to do things that you do in life?

P.S. If you guys don't mind, please share your life experiences, both the good and the bad. And if you have any advice, I will be more than happy to listen to it. Thanks :-)

Hi all,

@Guest4. I am sorry I accidently deleted your post after reading it. I actually meant to press the reply button but ended up pressing the delete button.

You wrote "If it makes you feel better, I have been out of college for a few years and I still feel the same". Well, I definetely felt better knowing that there are people out there who are like me. It is always good to know that I am not alone. Hopefully, one day we will both find what we are passionate about.

Thanks for the reply. :-)

You can't "accidentally" delete someone's post and make stuffs up and then quote the person. Fortunately, the quote isn't that bad, so I will pretend, for now, that that is what I actually said. :)

To add to what I said earlier, I think we should be able to take risks in life, especially when you can and when the consequences of the unfavorable outcome are not that dire. You can't agree to everything your parents tell you to do so that you become a good son or a daughter and not feel screwed up when things don't turn out the way you or them expected? If you had the courage to tell your parents no when they asked you to study but instead had gone to chase storm, life wouldn't have been that scary!

I don't know where this chasing storm thing came from, but I feel like I can understand why people chase storm.

You know, I share similar situation with you except for one thing. I don't blame my parents because they did what they thought, with the knowledge they had, was best for me. Now, did I think the same way about six months ago? The answer is 'NO'. -- 

Thanks for creating this thread.

Happiness comes in installment in my life.

When my financial status was not good enough i was living with my family with my love...i miss that life

and now i am stable financially but my family and my love is not with me.

You go along with the flow of life and try all the possibilities for the better future.

All I can say is be happy.

I use to get motivate after talking with my family.

Hi all,

@Guest4. I really deleted your post by accident. Like I said I meant to hit the reply button but ended up hitting the delete button. Sorry again.

@malekhu. I will definitely get the book once my summer finals are over. Thanks for recommending the book and thanks for leaving your email address. That was really nice of you. I will take your advice and read the book.

@SATHI999. After reading what you wrote. It reminded me of what my friend once told me. She said when she was back home, she was not financially stable but she was happy, mentally and emotionally. But now she is financially stable in US but she is not happy. I guess the pursuit of happiness is never ending.

P.S. Thank you all very much for replying. :-)

Double post.. see below

Some of you guys said you are in early twenty and already made lots of mistakes in life.. com'on guys.. life in early 20s means your life has not been started yet. I wish i were in early tweties now :)..

If you are in such tender age, your prime worry should be to excel in study i.e. prepare for better future/job.

Core fact is - who you will be tomorrow depends on what you do today. It is so simple.

If you dont feel motivated - exercise. Do fast walk for 30 mins or jugging or go to gym. You will feel the difference.

Some people are in depression (specially in USA) and they dont know this fact. They just feel sad and 'not happy' for no reason. Take some good multivitamins, fish oils (omega-3,6), exercise and sleep in time. Your life will change..

smile :)

Hi all,

@grgDai. I have actually seen this pyramid before when I took an intensive psychology class. But since it was just 3 weeks long we didn't go in depth. But I do remember something, Maslow stated that very few people actually reach the top(1-2%). So this makes me wonder why self-actualization is the hardest to achieve. Guess the journey to achieve this level is a very long process.

Don't be sorry about the rambling. Appreciate it. :-)

P.S. I am glad I created this blog. Whenever I log in and see that the number of responses have gone up, I get excited. I know it is lame but it's okay. LOL

@naya nepal. I deleted your post. If you don't have anything good to say, don't say it. Peace.

early 20's bhanya kati ho.....timro a/c ta maile sajha matrimonial ma ni bhettako the...35 female single ready to mingle bhandai ...malai mero post firta chaiyo

Hi all,

@naya nepal. For me early twenties mean 20-22. Lol, I hope by 35 I will know what I am passionate about and not be in sajha asking questions like this. I might ask other questions though. By the way, that summer5 that you saw is not me. I only joined sajha about a week ago because my friend persistently told me to do so.

Don't know why but your last post made me smile. :-)

I agree with Summer %. But dont you think ppl passion may change with time and situation.

What a beautiful discussion. This is the wonderful thing about the internet and sajha.com that we can all be so honest and speak from our heart. This thread was a pleasure to read, thanks for starting it.

Summer5, life is a balance between taking risks and following the guidance of your well-wishers. At the end of the day, you need to be able to live with yourself for the mistakes made in your life through either following your dreams and thinking on your own or by following the guidance of your well-wishers. I don't think that there is "one formula that meets all..." as much as people try to paint it that way.

Like some of the posts above say, I agree that I think us Nepalese tend to get caught up in materialism too much. I came across this article that I really liked that you may like also:
http://www.ventzine.com/article/prajwal-kafle/american-dream-a-nepalis-perspective

 

Hi all,

@Homeyji. Thanks for commenting. I agree with your phrase "Life is a balance between taking risks and following the guidance of well wishers".  But right now, I haven't gotten to the point where I am comfortable taking risks. I really wish to get to that point though. I usually think about the negative consequences before I do something. And sometimes I even talk myself out of certain situations because I feel that what I have is not good enough. A lot of negativity here.

I read the article that you posted. This phrase the writer wrote "We fear being laughed at because the wealth we own does not match up to the ‘acceptable’ standards of those around us" is really really true. I am guilty of this, there have been times I have bought things that I couldn't really afford because of peer pressure. I look around, everyone has it and I don't wanna be the outcast.

Maybe if we all stop comparing ourselves to others and start being thankful for what we have, I think we will all be a lot happier. :-)

Gdnitez all. I gotta get back to my books; summer finals coming up. Wish me luck. LOL

If there is anything that motivates me, it is my own self-interest. I slacken most of the times and there is no sense of urgency. The half part of me is laid-back and the other half is cynical. As a result, there is a very small window to get motivated. Great achievements by other people just pass by me. I applaud them for showing such perseverance, and  more than that- channeling all their energy to accomplish a great feat. I put just a smirk on my face.
I believe, to me, generally motivating agent does not tickle me. Yes, there are basic needs and there is compulsion to meet those basic needs. I put a bare minimum to achieve them. However, a little more is always welcomed. Yet again, I am not contend with the status quo. There is just no drive. I think I have been desensitized to all of the emotions. At least in philosophy. Among all these conundrums, I selfishly bargain for self-actualization. A dual thought-process runs through my mind. Which one I choose depends upon whim. It depends upon my self-interest, just like you all.

I am not sure though if motivation is what you are after. It seems as if inspiration or epiphany has yet to land in your doorstep. Sometimes it is just the lack of exposure and experience.

Have you thought about volunteering. Or how about getting a part time job. Or better yet, starting a personal fitness regime. Or how about checking out a thought-provoking book from the college library. Or hanging out with your friends more often. Or how about getting a guy you like to notice you (don't irritate him though). Or volunteering to research a topic of interest for the professor you admire. Or spending one Sunday watching as many movie classics as you can. Or travelling to places that you have always wanted but never had the time. All these experiences - good or bad, *should* get you thinking and I am sure you will come up with something inspirational. Passion is not something you create - it has to be as innate as bee is to honey, and truly comes from life experience.

And finally give yourself credit that you opt to 'live it up' than to 'worry about it'. You will have the latter to wrap yourself in for the rest of your life - so for now have fun and do things that will knock your socks off!

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Hi all,

@JavaBeans. What you wrote was excellent. "Passion is not something you create - it has to be as innate as bee is to honey, and truly comes from life experience." I never thought about it this way. Honestly I do lack the exposure and the experience. So I guess it is time to step out of the bubble and really get out there. For me, I realize that what I do is very repetitive. This is where I lack exposure. I tend to eat the same type of food everyday. I hang out with people who are like me. My new job is usually very similar to my old job. The list goes on.

P.S. From today onwards, I am gonna 'live it up'.  :-)