So what even if she had sex? Is that too much for you?

 I don't know yet. Just those kisses and hugs have made me so jealous in the past and i got over with it...I am sure sex will create a havoc inside me...But I love her so i don't know what would I do...the biggest problem is she is not with me right now...She is back in Nepal...

 Dude  be  realistic, wht  evn if she had sex with her bf.She is in a relationship with you at the moment and she is true  to you, she is not  cheating  or  sleeping around, thts  what matters.I didn't wana call you stupid but  you sure  do sound like one.Get over it  evn if she had sex  with her ex, it was in the past when he was her bf.However, if you can't accept her as  the way she is,and if this thing is taunting you,you are  better off single than being in a relationship.
                Lastly, i think you need to grow up.

 In simple line.. u r doucebag for trying out all those fake email and other stuffs..

if u know it will create havoc, why r u trying to dig more.

If she is loyal to you.. after being in relationship with you.. then why her past matters to you.. and if person commits mistake..then do u think its fare for them.. to make liable for that mistake for all of their life.

If u still want to get more opinion on this,try posting this on santa banta forum/ agony aunt

 Alright guys just to let you know, I am not digging about sex just so that I am virgin and I want  to leave her after that.....
I am digging it so that she would not have to live only with her emotions..like praying to god so that she could die..
I know it will definitely hurt me for a while to find about their sex life if they ever had any, but I will be relieved to know that she is no more thinking about betraying me...by not saying what i asked before...

You Sir are a fake and confused jackass and a moron!!  You yourself had inappropriate relationship with your cousin (yeeeww)!  Instead of being jealous, you should feel lucky to even have a gf even if the gf is a complete whore.  This gf of yours seems too nice and too kind hearted for you.  You cannot find such a pure lady even in Nepal nowadays.  If I had a way to communicate with this lady, I would suggest to immediately leave a pervert (going through her personal e-mails, sending her fake emails, talking to her friends.........sounds like criminal activities to me) like you.  If you can change your twisted view of looking at others and be a gentleman, I suggest you apologize to her, marry her and worship her for the rest of your life.  Peace Out!!

 Sankaa le lanka jhalaucha re :)

and quiet franky, you'r limiting the parameter of your relationship with your gf, just in  physical terms and expectations. not cool at all. 

playing with ur gfs emotions is lot worse than having sex .Grow up boy.thats it!

she hasent let you eat her sideways taco for three effing years of relationship????ह्वाट द फक म्यान !!  from what you wrote above, it not very hard, even for a royal dumbass like me to infer that you are one nasty looking hairy chickenshit and your girlfriend a gold digging slut !

डम्प  दयाट लायिंग  बियाच !

Dude, you are talking like you are some harischandra or something like that. Seriously ?? I have a simple question for you. Do you know what is love?
You are comparing your girlfriend with an used car. That is absolutely not cool. Grow up otherwise you won't find peace in rest of your life.

 Jesus Christ! How old are you, man? What's w/ Nepali guys living w/ this "caveman" like mentality in today's world? You expect her to be a virgin simply because you happen to be one? 

I wouldn't worry about her past unless she had a shady past. People go through emotional and hormonal changes while growing up. More often than not, people also do uncontrollable acts (like you kissing your cousin albeit morality is a different issue). Having sex with people of other sex is one. 

You gotta suck it up and move on. If you really love her, accept her for who she is today instead of wasting your time pondering how often she kissed her ex and all that. 

You sound like a 20-22 year old. 

I am not saying I am harishchandra or anyone like that.....but only the person who is feeling it can find it hard. Its lot easier to advise people but when it comes to you its all different, you feel like you are the only one experience it in the whole world,....ONe more thing you guys need to know is....I have never had any girls before and I never followed anyone just to be in relationship or for sex...never proposed a girl......and the encounter with my cousin was just once and it was not me who started it....I never go to any dance parties, strip clubs, dont drink.....or go around for sults to sleep with....I have saved my virginity for my that precious one for such long and now I am finding it that My gf had her relationship in the past...its hard for anybody like me to experience it...I know i could overcome it but until i get married or be with my gf i think i will find it hard...If I wouldn't love her then why would I be posting such things in web to get some answers ? 

 Get what you're saying but if you love her, you gotta suck it up. In today's age, it is atypical for a guy or a girl to 'save her/his virginity' and what not. You're a virgin, good on you but your idea and desire isn't a sensible one. 

I'm assuming that you live in the US. I'd try and assimilate. Unless she was someone who used to sleep around, I wouldn't worry about it. 

 Virginity is not a  matter of dignity but lack of opportunity . 
And if you think it is matter of dignity , you lost it all by almost screwing your own cousin.
Ever thought of giving it a shot, and if she is virgin , marry her otherwise, leave her as it would not be her first time anyway.

You went through her personal email and faked email which is totally stupid . I dont think she will ever trust you like before.
If you really loved her, you must be able to ignroe these stuffs. 
what do you expect from her actuallly?
virginity? you can seal the broken hymen by doing simple cheap surgery if you despearately need it.
lovely  life partern?- I think you have one

If you think you can leave her, then go for it , dont confuse yourself. But keep in mind that the next one you get can be a whore but lying to you about her virginity untill yu fk her or marry her.

I advise u to lose ur virginity first. Sleep around and see the difference yourself. Even if your gf had sex with her ex, it don't matter. Like everyone else said grow up.
I dun know why guys think like if a girl loses her virginity, there's a big hole and she is a biaatch.

Here is another Jackass story.C'mn man. You earned a degree, you claimed to be educated but you have not learned anything in you life. You have not learned the civilization. You are still in the stone age buddy. Otherwise you wouldn't hurt that innocent girl for something she did at that moment when you did not exist in her life. You do not own any of her moment before you were in her life. You will be the most unhappy person if you keep spying on your love.
I have read one article about suspicious lover. The article said that guys who are addicted to porn are more likely to be suspicious over his love. Stop watching too much porn man! And just don't go to school, learn something and apply in your life dude.

Dude,
Take her to bed. Lick that pu$$y. While doing so, check if her hymen is intact or broken. Have sex with her, most girls bleed during their first time sex coz hymen breaks.

 What a way to start my day:      You need to advertise for Geico Man. You can be another Caveman. That poor girl is with you for 3 years and you are acting like a psycho for her past. Even she had sex so what?Get over it. It doesn't change a thing about that.Now if you two have getting along problem or any issues other than the one you mentioned, its  a good idea to worry...if not go and kiss that girl boy!

 The problem is not with your girlfried, it is with you dude. Suck it up.  Too much hindi movies I guess.  I take it you are a virgin, have you ever masturbated imagining some else, Well morally speaking that is wrong too. Well the point is suck it up. you sound like a loser, the girl doesn't deserve you, she deserves someone better.  Kissing a cousin: - what is that?  I am a virgin because I want to save myself bla bla bla and I go around kissing my cousin .....

No easy way to say it bro, but you're the creep in this case! 

I can understand you feel curious about her past, but its something you can't change. All girls have a past, especially in today's world. My girlfriend had her first kiss in drunken stupor with a guy at a bar. Nothing I can do about that. 

like the others have said, you're lucky shes with you. cherish it while it lasts, because if you keep snooping around YOU WILL BE DUMPED.

P.S - YOUR STORY ABOUT KISSING YOUR COUSIN -- ARE YOU FACKIN KIDDIN ME?