Hi friends,
I really have sad story to share with. I am a PR and I got married with man who is out of status on last October, 2013. I found,he is having extra marital affair consistently with all proofs but he is still lying with me.
I filled him I130 form which is already approved now. How should I move now, first divorce or calling to USCIS to cancel all the process. Since, our marriage is not even a year can I file a divorce now? I have been living in USA continuously from more than 2 years.
Please guys.. need really good suggestion as I am in horrible situation.
Appreciate a lot for reading...
Thanks

NP,Nepalifan. If you write USCIS now, you won't have any problems in the future! But, if you hide anything now then it will come and haunt you during citizenship process.You can not tell You are married when you all do not even live together! Since, you r his sponser, you can revoke his I130 anytime before He have his I 485 approved.

Thanks lajalu for the kind words, learnt a big lesson in life...
Really appreciate it Richard.. Thanks

Good luck Nepalifan. Didn't mean to sound mean. You are going through a rough time I am sure and hope you get over this thing quick.

Thanks Kiddo.

You should talk to immigration than idiots including me here...

If you don't have kids, you can file uncontested divorce. It will be finalized in in couple of months. Google lawyers online and talk to them.

yes Dindukhi, we dont have kids..thank u,

@Lajalu
you ain't like a boy because you're into girls ain't mean you have to make an offensive statement derogating the dignity of a boy. there are some good boys around.
for instance.: sojoketo. kamta sojo xa.
plzzzz!! give me a break.
As you accepted your daju bhai cheater selfish bhayo bhandaima,
mero didi ko bhai ani baini ko dai selfish cheater ho bhani dosh lagauna paidaina..
How about your bau? you have a doubt on your dad as well or what?
now onwards, before you make a statement you better analyze
that's it.

tei ta sojo keto I agree.....euta naramro vayo vandai ma sab lai naramro vandine "Lajalu"....ma Gwaach vaye pani Lastai sojho chu....tara kyarnu koi keti le futya aakha le herdainan

Nepalifan, arkai sanga baccha banau, teslai Child Support handeu..
Don't divorce, jindagi bhar timlai paisa tirdai marcha tyo.

Just spare that poor guy and move on! You will not be happier unless you completely forgive him (and forget him). After all you are also to be blamed on this since you completely failed to know him before taking such a big decision of your life. You had green card and that idiot did not have paper and you should have at least gave a thought on his ulterior motives or tried to find them. May be its a chance for another guy to make his paper and hopefully a true love for you. If you do this that guy will repent someday. It is in his blood, gene etc to use people, and inevitably, these types of people will be caught up on their own Karma. Examples: gyanendra, paras, chiranjibi wagle, govinda raj joshi, jp gupta, mao baadi khaobaadi and many others ..:)

Thank you all for your support and suggestions.
One more question plz... my so called spouse, is now saying he will stop that relationship (I know, they are still in touch) and doesn't want to have divorce with me cause he love me a lot. Its sad but true I also love him, but have question in my mind that, is he fooling me again,,? Should I hear my heart or my brain? Should I give him one chance or just finish it now? When I see his face I just want to forget and forgive everything but I am not sure about his intention. Please guys, need your suggestion.
Thank you

What a pathetic girl.

I'm a guy and I know how a guy behaves.
I'm sure he's after a green card and as soon as he gets it (or may be 2 years after getting it coz I think you have to stay together for 2 years after getting gc fro ur spouse), he'll kick you out from his life. If a guy cheats once, he'll cheat again.

My grand mom used to say "aaimai ko buddhi chakaa" and this time too I feel she's going to be right. LOL.

'Love is blind' thats what am seeing here.
Life is a role-playing game, it's depends on how you make choices in your life, good or bad it's all in your hand.
Best of luck. whoever you are Lady.

He will love you until he has to wait for his citizenship, that's what I see as per things you're explaining here in Sajha. Listen to your brain, heart can fail anytime.

Take your time. !!!
As you said you love him so be strong and keep the relationship.
Find out the truth. If he is Nepali too then talk to his family too.
My point is don't be weak. Stay strong and make it happen the way you want.

Thanks ...Shere, Hydrogen Sulphide and Nepali scientist.. Yeah I am taking sometime before making decision..Appreciate a lot.. Thanks

http://www.courts.ca.gov/1247.html
You might need to read this .... You can get some idea..
... You found about him just a few month of marriage ...To be honest, you should move on and let him go because like most of us Are saying he might be just using you for a residency...

Everything happens for a reason and it ll happen for a good. That is good you still have time to stop him from doing wrong things ...
Make him learn his lesson
Best of luck and stay strong...
SN

One of the Gentleman in Teaching profession's list : married to a Nepali girl from New England, as he got Green Card started giving hard time and compel her to divorce. Then he married to his girlfriend from Nepal.
Once you see a problem and do not think it will last : get rid of it before getting too late. You should not worry about his status or anything. Be happy.

Thank u so much for the suggestions....