कुरा 2008 तिर को हो। म एउटा केटीलाई निकै मन पराउथे| ( suppose her name is सन्जु)| सन्जु मेरो Dream girl थिएिन! According to my friends, she was average looking. तर उनिको पढाई र
सरलताले गर्दा उनि मेरो मुटु मा बसेकी थिएन | Many guys were running behind her but she always ignore them. I knew at that time, because of my reserved nature, I could never tell her my feeling.

2009 आयो | मैले मास्टर्स पढाई सुरु गरे! मास्टर्स क्लासमा अर्को केटि संग भेट भयो. (suppose her name is सरु )| सरु ले मलाई प्रेम प्रस्ताप राखी | मैले accept गरे! २-३ महिना पछि थाहा, उनको माया Time pass माया रहेछ भनेर| But i wanted this time pass love to be turned into real. So, i was doing my best to convince her and marry with her. There was gap from सरु side. सरु म संग टाढा हुदै थिएन | म उनको नजिक हुने प्रयास गर्दै थिए! यहि समयमा सन्जु (my Dream Girl: 2008) ले मलाई facebook मा add गरिन! कुराकानी भो नजिक नजिक हुदै सन्जु संग गए! सन्जु ले मलाई मन पराएको कुरा गरिन तर मैले सरु लाई official breakup नगरेको ले मैले मेरो Dream girl को प्रस्ताप ignore गरे! म honest and sincere भएर कामहरु गर्न पर्छ भन्ने सोचाई राख्ने मान्छे थिए! भगवान भक्त पनि भएको ले सरु लाई official ब्रेअकुप नगरी सन्जु (my Dream Girl: 2008) "yes" भन्दा पाप लाग्छ भन्ने ठाने |

मैले सरु लाई सन्जु ले मलाई मन पराएको कुरा गरे! उनि ले मलाई २०१० सम्म कुर्न भनिन ! मलाई थाहा थियो त्यो उनको मलाई अड्काउने बाटो मत्रो थियो भनेर!

2010 आयो | सरु संग मेरो distance as usual थियो | २०१० मा सरु ले अर्कै संग बिहे गरिन!

म सन्जु को नजिक हुन गए | सन्जु को पनि बिहे २-३ महिना पछि fix भएको थाहा भो! त्यो पनि मेरै चिनेको केटा संग!


It had been six years of losing her. I regret everyday and curse myself for being honest and sincere. I am married since 2014 but even my marriage couldn't heal my wound a bit.
I deleted her from my facebook because i could not see her happy without me. Her husband is in my facebook, I cannot delete him. When i see her with him, i get mad and crazy today too.

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Please, friends be serious to my pain and give me suggestions !!!

पछाडी फरक्यो भने मायाजाल लाग्छ हिड्न सकिन्न l Look ahead and make the best out of your current relation.

Is this a real story? Sounds very filmy to me :)

Thank you @bitterturth,hawking666,Anniee for ur suggestions and soothing words. @Ujl mero katha sacho ho sathi; I just wanted to share it because i want to calm myself and get rid of this pain.

What happened to you, Annie? care to share?

जे छैन्न तेइ चाहिने .....it happens to all, the only difference is some people suffers more of not having it and some suffers less..... खै के खै के बुज्न्नै गारो छ आफ्नो मन् को कुरा आफै लाई..

ye...kasto tragedy nai bhako raicha ta bro. Tension naliga k... life ma yestai ho. Purano chapter haru close gara, naya chapter suru gara. Manakamana cable car ma chadera halka ramailo gara, or last resort ma bungee jump gara, or fewa taal ma boat ma budi lai lagera bich ma tyo k jaati mandir cha ni, ho darshan gara.

Thank you bro ujl.... for suggestions. आज मलाई साचो मा मन हल्का महसुस भएको छ! I think we need to share our pain. I suggest @Annie to share this pain as well.

A story is not a love story unless there is a tragedy. U r blessed to have gone through such a pain. How many people get a chance to experience such pain ? Very lucky few.

A boy meets a girl, falls in love, gets married, have kids, then lives happily ever after. Well, haven't read a novel or seen a movie with such a storyline.

Feeling .... .... Thanks for sharing@Annieeeee

I have the same story, but I never got to tell her that I loved her even though I knew she was aware of my feelings. To this date I occasionally think of her, but no more than that. Having said that you guys definitely need to leave your past behind and move forward even though if its going to be tough. Remember someone has chosen to spend their lives with you and that person is the one who deserves 100% of your love, care, and attention. Focus on what you have rather than what you could have or what you missed.

/\ well, then its fcking time to (wo)man up and face the consequences of your decision. Either forget the past/guy and move on with your spouse OR convince yourself you made a mistake, divorce ur spouse and go back to ur old love. U cant live the life u r not convinced is the right one.
Btw this "love and soulmate stuff" is matter of perception influenced by stimuli received through one's life experiences.

sahi huro bairaghi bro. sahi kuro.

You were in love with somebody, she is a perfect fit for you but due to circumstances you have to marry another girl.Nobody is perfect,your wife has some imperfections as normal humans do . Now you think that your past girlfriend was a perfect fit for you without any flaws. You have not seen her enough as your wife to see her flaws or you forgot it or ignoring it because some people tend to live in past to get answer of present.

You were in love with somebody,she is a perfect fit for you, you marry her and you will see that she is not perfect, and love might fade away slowly. It depends on the couple to make issue out of it or to continue loving each other realizing that nobody is imperfect.

Humans always try to get something that they Dont have . Until you had a live in relationship, you will never see a person's imperfections and everybody has some flaws.Try to think that your wife is the perfect woman you could marry and try your best to manage your married life , lot of things can be solved by solving the puzzles of your mind and living in the moment.

I know whatever you do some people are not compatible with each other, if that's the case, get out of this marriage but if not please get out of your past and deactivate that Facebook .

Source: Experience
Reason: Nepali nature - sallaha dina man lagne

Annie, based on the first reply post and then latter — you have made on this thread, you kind of sounded like someone whom 'Ramailo Nepal' mentioned in his original post. You sounded like that girl 'saru' who ditched 'Ramailo Nepal' for someone else.

I particularly don't see any fault on saru's end, as she must have been longing for clean relationship. But since 'Ramailo Nepal' also discussed with her(saru) about some girl(sanju) also wanting him, for saru this obviously seemed like a guy with strings attached whom nobody wants to deal with. Saru must have sought her friends', relatives' advises and obviously they all gave thumbs down. In the context of our society, women in general listen to their families when it comes to life-changing decisions like marriage. Like Annie in this thread has given her all to please her families. No wonder, heart-broken folks like 'Ramailo Nepal' comes on some random forum and posts his predicament. In Annie's case, she was intertwined. Groom was chosen by her family, meanwhile she swayed a bit and gave her heart to someone else. Now groom is still in all hope to be with Annie. But Annie realizes that what she's doing is not right and decided to get back to her family groom. Suddenly she realizes that she made a big mistake. She ends the new relationship. Well, happy marriages and lifes are based on compromises. I'm sure Annie will soon realize that. It's considered infidelity to fool around once you are committed to some relationship. I'm happy for you that you stuck to your old relationship. Be glad that you didn't help create another 'Ramailo Nepal' guy.

Literally, a life is like a role-playing game where you make choices and that determines how your life shape up. Your life ends happy or sad based on your own decisions. We are on our own fault, we're responsible for our own problems and those who blame others for their problems, well they've some problems needed to be fixed first themselves. Good thing here, is that OP is acknowledging that he made some poor decisions in his life and that he's regretting now. Move on, everyone. We're born to be dust oneday but before that don't spoil lifes' happiness in all these sadness.

ब्रोहरुले मेरो लव कथा सुन्यो भने पागल हुन्छ. म तेत्तिकै योगी भाको होइन. मुटुमा मेरो नि गहिरो घाऊ छ. पछि वेदान्त तिर लागियो अनि मोरीलाई बिर्सिन सजिलो भयो. हिजो त्यो मोरीको फेसबुक हेरेको त घोर्ले छोरि पाई सकिचे. तर मलाई आजभोली केहि पिर छैन. वेदान्तले मलाई ज्ञानी बनाएको छ र जस्तो सुकै हावा-हुरी झेल्न सक्छु अब म. अब छिट्टै म नि नेपाल गएर एउटी च्वाक अप्सरलाई बिहे गर्नी हो. मुभ-ओन हुन पर्दो रैछ लाईफमा. रिभर मस्ट फ्लो.......

@ujl bro sunau na ta LOVESTORY