Lie low for now. Pretend you don’t know. Gather evidences secretly. When your baby is a little older and you are strong enough, file for divorce. He will have to pay alimony and child support. What a jerk, your husband.

If its just a casual sexual relationship, then its normal , every man has it or intend to do it . I have been involved in casual sexual relationship outside my marriage past 15 years n enjoy it . If i ever find out my wife been doing it ill take it light n wouldn't blame her . Since your were pregnant, its likely that he fulfilled his physical desire with someone since you were off the track . But if its more than a casual sexual relationship then lawyer up , fight for your financial freedom n held him accountable for child care and other expenses .

Be aware, if a man steps one leg in different boat ur likely to be left behind anytime . Plan for finance , make a plan to squeeze his money as much as u can . People come n go , feelings are not as important as finance . You can have feelings to anyone but hard to have good finance .

So , if its more than a sexual relationships that your husband is having , lawyer up and cut him right away. Sooner is better.

We Nepalese and Indian children learn quickly the fine arts of dissimulation and we live our whole life with it.
You (tps2gc) have casual sex and you are saying it is okay, how about your spouse does the same , are you going to tolerate it ? YOUR SPOUSE IS ALSO ON THE SIMILAR BOAT?

Many Sajha members are offended by minor things think of them if their spouses have casual sex.

@Logan,

Logan, did u read my comment saying ,"If i ever find out my wife been doing it ill take it light n wouldn't blame her" what does it mean?

If your wife is sexually active outside you house ,its not her fault rather its you being unable to make her happy some times .

Logan, tps2gc is a perfect example of Nepali male chauvinist. He is saying confidently he won’t mind his wife’s infidelity. But I seriously doubt that.

And maybe it is normal for some people to have extra marital affairs but the impact of their wives finding it out can have serious psychological implications on those poor women. They will feel inadequate and may even go into depression.

But of course, chauvinist husbands like tps2gc do not think of their wives’ mental well being.

@Glowing, Don’t make any rash decision! just found out that my husband cheated on me? How did you find out? Did his gf call or text you?im sure your husband did not tell you. Try to amend the situation. Go have a STD checked out on him. Don’t blow things out of proportion. You can’t go to Nepal because child support and other legal complexities. I would suggest you guys for a marriage counseling before you file for divorce. With the child involved the judge going to send you all for marriage counseling before she petition is filed for dissolution. We all mess up in lives knowingly and unknowingly. Try to forgive at least once, but don’t let people run over you again and again

I asked " are you okay if your spouse has casual sex" Noting else.

बेन्डिक भाईको जत्ति समालोचनात्मक छेमेता र कमन सेन्स अरु साथिहरुमा कहिले आऊछ होला ? येही पाराले त सायद अर्को ८० ९० वर्ष लाग्छ होला . हुन त मेरी बेहुली पनि म जस्तै औठा छाप नै हो ,( मिल्क टि लाइ मिलिक टि भन्छे ) तर पनि यौन भनेको फगत सार्रिरिक आवस्येकता मात्र हो भन्ने बुझाई मेरी बुढीको छ . एउटा उदहारण दिन्छु :

( एकचोटी मेरो बुद्धि बिग्रिएर मेरो घरमा डेरामा बस्ने केटि संग हिम-चिम बढ्यो . उसको बुडो नेपाल गएको बेला ९ १० महिना कोभिडको कारण नेपालमै अड्कियो . रमाइलोको लागि मात्र भन्ने सम्झौता अनुसार त्यो केटि र मेरो बीच ५ ६ महिना सम्बन्ध रह्यो . पछि त त्यो आइमाईले म संग पैसा पो माग्न थाली . मलाई पनि सहि नसक्नु भयो र बुडा बुडी दुवै लाइ घर बाट निकालिदिए . तेस्को प्रतिसोध साध्न तेस्ले मेरो बुढीलाइ हाम्रो फोटो पठाई . मेरो बुढीले मलाई कुट्छे जस्तो लागेको थियो तर बुडीले त तेस्लाई घरमा बोलाएर मार संग थर्काई " तलाई ,आफ्नो बुडोलाइ नेपाल पठाएर यहाँ कसको बुडो संग पैसा छ को लाटो छ तेस्ता लाइ फसाएर पैसा लुट्न खोज्छस ? त र तेरो बुडो दुवै लाइ डिपोर्ट गर्दीम ?" येस्तै येस्तै भनेर मार थर्काई .

म संग पनि ४ ५ दिन राम्रो संग बोलिन तर कुट्न चै कुटीन . तेस्पछि यो कुरा सकियो . भालेहरु पोथी भन्दा यौनमा अलिधेरै आसक्त नै हुन्छन . पायो भने जो संग पनि ढिकी-च्याउ गर्न पछि पर्दैनन . यो भन्दैमा धोका दियो , बर्बाद भयो भन्ने निस्कर्स चै निकाल्न मिल्दैन तर सजग भने अवस्य हुनु पर्छ . म संग भन्दा धेरै सम्पति मैले उसकोमा किनेको भएर पनि मैले धोका दिन्न भन्ने उसलाई होला . तेसैले सम्पति चै आफ्नो मुठीमा कस्नु पर्छ . ढिकी -च्याउ गर्न चै छोडिन्न तर स्वोर्गकै अप्सरा आए पनि मेरी थाप्रे बेहुलीलाइ छोड्न चै छोडिन्न .

माथि बेन्डिक भाइले अंग्रेजीमा भने जस्तै , आदर्शका कुरा गर्नेहरु चै अभागी हुन् , यिनीहरुले नपाएर हुन् पाए भने बुडी बाख्री पनि छोडदैनन् . मेरो बटम लाइन ,बुढीले मलाई डबल क्रस गर्ने बाताबरण सिर्जना गर्दिन , जति बुढो हुन्छु उति सारिरिक परिश्रम गरेर झिल्के बन्ने कोसिस गर्ने छु , यौनक नया नया टेक्निकको अध्यन र अनुसन्धान गर्ने छु , येति गर्दा गर्दै पनि जाँठीले कथम कदाचित झुक्याएर गोल हानी भने तेस्को छेमताको तारिफमा Standing ovation दिनुको विकल्प हुने छैन .

Just want to say, that it is not only men who cheat or have "fun" out of marriage. It is women too. What more than this news floating around lately, a married lady cop from Tennessee fired for having sex with 4 male cops while at duty. This is quite disgusting piece of news coming out lately, but just want to point out, anybody can cheat and anybody can have multiple sex partners. And what more the husband of that lady cop is now saying they were in "open marriage" and he will still stick with his wife even after she has been disgraced nationally.

"Just want to say, that it is not only men who cheat or have "fun" out of marriage. It is women too"  बेन्डिक काँठाको यो कुरामा सहि थाप्न मात्र आको . धोका दिने उतिकै संख्यामा करोसपोंडिंग महिला पनि हुन्छन . मेरै भूपू घरपेटी  दिदिको कुरो गर्नुस न , नेपालाँ तेत्रो भुस्तिग्रे लोग्ने हुदा हुदै उसलाई धोका दिएर म संग एक वर्ष सम्म सुतेकी, ल हेर्नुस त !!  बिचरा त्यो भिनाजुलाइ सम्झेर कैले कहिँ त कस्तो माया लाग्ने यार . फेरी माया-पिरिम नै नभएको भए त एउटा कुरो , भिजनु आउन साथ मलाई छोडेर त्यो दिदि लपक्क उतै टाँसिन गएकी ल हेर्नुस त !! अझ बेस्ट कपल , mah fev person , soulmate भन्दै टिकटक पे टिकटक बनाउदै बसेकी छन् . 

Ram Bhakta,

कलेज ताका एक दिन रत्नपार्क को खुल्ला मन्च मा भएका मनिषहरु आकाश हेरेर अनी कोही कोइ औल्याउदै बसेका थिए | मैले पनि हेरे देख्ने कुरा केही थिएन | दाईले भन्नु भयो , फोस्सामा मनोरन्जन को स्वादादन गर्नेको खेल हो , यो भिड तिर होइन , भिड देखी टाढा हेर अनी थाहा पाउछस |
एउटाले भिड बिच माथि हेर्न सुरु गर्‍यो अर्को ले औल्याउन थालयो, अरु हरु के हेर्यो भन्दै हेर्न थाले , आकाश तिर हेर्ने को सन्ख्या बड्दै गयो | ति चन्डाल हरु अलिक टाढा बसी फोस्सा मा आनन्द लुटी रहेका थिए होलान |
अहिले हामी मदारिका पात्र ( बाँदर वा भालु ) भएका छौ भने मदारी (Glowing) हाम्रो खेल हेर्दाइ मजा लुट्दै होला |