पृष्‍ठभूमी: 

• I am here in US for almost 7 months and dont have a penny. (Please.... I am not asking financial help). Just started working last month. have a lot loan to pay. But most important thing is to maintain relation with my parents.  I have to put my parents expectations down. And I dont want them to blame her.
• One of her brother is renown in our area for his many bad deeds. So family relation cant go at all.
• Sometimes I feel we are  too young to marry.
• If I marry her now I cant bring her here for around a year. So Condition for her would be the same. 
• She is surviving on her own. I dont want her to be dependent on other ( including me) for everything.( I dont mean to say I wont spend for her expences but its matter of her self-respect  as she is doing now) I dont want her feel so small and take me as a rescurer rather than a lover.

• Indeed Her heart would be broken. I cant forgive myself for that.
• Who knows the hardships in life like her.. loosing mom in birth and never being called by dad... spent most of the time in hostel life,.... no one to visit.. and 'daju ko sasurali ma hurkanu ko pida'... And if I leave her in this time... GOD save her..
• I will be broken.. I dont kno what my guilt will do on my life..
• We both might(cant say will) start a new life with deep scar inside..

Don't let her go brother.

there is no next time in life for these things. So you better retain her.

I hope u dont be the next me!

the most trusted person in the world turned upside freaking down within 24 hrs.....wedding ring to no more calls matter of 24 hrs ....and how the flip it happened i dont know .... i hate this humanity sh!t.

act fast bro, dont be me.

Susta bro, piro buffalo wings khayera chiso pani piu ani sab thik huncha

On a different note, set your priorities and act accordingly daju, it vary between each person and to me, I cant forsake my parents for anything.

Here is my not even fraction of a penny worth sugestion.

Stop anyalyzing the consequences. stop right there. her heart will be broken( of course she will be broken), your parents will not be satisfied, her brother name, your guiltyness(depends on your personality)  and bla bla bla...Anyalzing this thing doesn't help at all. Future is unexpected, and you never know what might happen next. . And please forgive me i am not trying to be negative here, i am just trying to express my own opinion(you or anybody doesn't have to agree with this). i came up with the conclusion because the person whom you love more than yourself, trust more than the truth that sun rises from the east just vanished with out any reason. So for me Future is unpredictable and that's why you should stop analyzing consequences.

Your plan doesn't get over my head at all. A piece of paper doesn't actually can't help two person to stay together. Nothing will, except the closeness, bond you guys have together. It was my marriage that didn't work out in NEPAL held in the presence of both of our parents and it was a love marrage of 9 yrs,  if you beleive that legally getting married would make you guys to stay forever. You never know. and hey my marriage didn't work out doesn't mean that everybody's won't either. i am just trying to convey that nothing is for sure. All matter is the love you guys have for each othe for now.

Enough about the philohopy from a f**king fagg*t regarding the future, lets come to your analysis.point by point.

The most important thing .Stop being an analyzer. Stop analzying things.

Now your points

Case I

1.  if i could help you finanacially, honestly i really would but you know i am a kangal too. and yes you might down your parents expectations. But hey have you ever thought what your parents want to you be when your at school ? and what you became? think about it.I am not asking you to go agains your parents wishes. but i think every parents are another form of god who will be happy at the end seeing their child living a happy live.

2.
One word. Bullsh**t. doesn't matter what her brother sister or father does. It doesn't matter at all.

3. don't know what make you feel u r too young to married but i thik you are worried about your future live. i don't have good job, house, money career etc etc. Well, when our parents get married, most of them don't have those things either, except few? ever thought about it?

4. I don't know. if you live there in nepal the condition  won't be the same.  Right?. staying in nepal or here would bring another ocean of information so i stop right here. you figure out by yourself.

5. Who says that loving her and getting married and sharing your life with her would make you a rescuer. You do your job, let her do her job and stay together. share the moments, joys, happiness, sadness everything. You will be her part of life, she will be yours. that's it. Beleive me she wont' feel like that your are rescuer for her.  think about like this way. even if you let her go away whoever comes next he would be take her his home right? so would he be a resucer now? hell no? brother you are in too much love. stop thinking like that way. She would never think that you are the rescuer for her.

case II

FORGET ABOUT IT. YOU WILL END UP WITH ENDLESS SUFFERRING.

and

Why you want to go underground after accepting her as your wife. DON"T RUN AWAY FROM PROBLEMS, GET THE BALS YOU HAVE AND FACE IT.  Tell your her parents that you love her and she is your wife and ask for thier blessings. 

DO NOT LET HER GO AT ANY COST.  YOU WILL REGRET IT.

Remember there are some unfortunte people like me in this world who pays for the unknown mistakes that i / we NEVER MADE. Letting her go means you are the one who make it first.


At the end the the people whom you make the connnection and hold you dear is matters. Everything else is just a noise.

GOOD LUCK.

Not sure eloping with her is the best case scenario. If her dais are involved in "bad deals" as you said, your family might come in trouble, think about that.
I think best case scenario is be a man and talk to her brothers, maybe they will understand. You have a GC and that could mean something to them (as they are looking for a guy with Hongkong card).

lol @Drkanchho. "if you truly love her, don't let her go. THAT'S ALL I HAVE TO SAY." And then you go on to put one full page of opinion. Nothing wroong, just found funny.

विचरा उनी कस्तो कमजोर प्रेममा फसिछन। मेरो निष्कपट विचारलाई अन्यथा नलिनु।

 Dude, 

i believe in love, Timi lai kt maan pareko cha ekdum jasto cha, That doesn't happen very often. May be 10 years form now when you look back, try to see what you will feel about yourself in Case 1 and case 2.  Family for and against ma bhanne kura ahile lai important cha but may be after 5-6 years it is not a important thing. they will love or atleast learn to live with you 2 being together. 
If a person can bring happiness to you from inside that is what you wnat in life. and bear in mind we have to live life looking forward, that is how evolution works, you will love your kids more than your parents, and so on. so look forward not backward, look what will make you happy and your future happy. You like it or not but in couple years(may be sooner) into marriage you will love your wife more than your parents or any one.  so remember who is important. 

Just my 2 cents. 

Homlal - kyaa sateeeek tippani.

yo baahun jaatbhaat mandina bhanchha, tara dherai analysis garera baschha .... yesto kuro maa analysis jati garyo, nirnaya tetti para para bhagchha, bujhyou baahun. aba baahun ko chhoro baahun nai banne bhae analysis garera basa.

haina, sachchaa prem gareko ho bhane aankhaa chimlera bihe gara, F1-sef1 k k chha bato milaayera amrikaa leraau, aafusangai raakha hariyo patta bhayeko manchhe testo darpok hune ho? (huna ta jaataile darpok banaako holaa). haina bhane 100-thari case-analysis gara - if-then-else logic lagau - puran bhatyaau - nitishastra paltaau - anta gohi ko aasu chuhaau --- "malai maaf gara priyasi" bhanera kavita savita lekhera saajhaa maa taasa --- kuro jati laamo gareni anta maa uhi ho. YES or NO. sakchhau YES bhana, haina bhane NO bhanna dasthari bahaanaa nabanaau -

 "Guilt can rob you of every ounce of joy in your life."- somebodys todays fb status.

Thank you all for your comments, encouraging words and sharing your views and experiences. I m going Nepal ASAP as my wallet approves.... 
I appereciate every word of you all.

Do not let her go bro !!! Everything will be just fine after a while.

@sukla and his quote "huna ta jaataile darpok banaako holaa" ..

^ get a [Disallowed String for - bad word]ing life.

sustasuman, gara yaar je garnu cha gara, if you really love her jasari pani aafno banau (provided she loves you as well).

@khalisisi

tuppi taatyo kyaa ho ? baaagmati maa dubulki maar. Jaa.

The only problem I can see here is getting ur gf to US. Find a way for that dude..like as a F1 student or something. Then u can marry her right away over here...You going to Nepal and doing a secret marriage doesn't make much sense to me other than u can bring her here once u get ur citizenship...And howz the secret marriage supposed to help u any way if u can't disclose it to nobody?? That sounds to me a like an old Hindi film.

@sukla

ma bahun ho, tara jaat ko aadhar ma na kahile kasailai aafu bhanda sano socheko chu, na sochnenai chu, ta sanga dherai guff ta garna maan hoina, tara tero jasto generalized comment le bahun ko tuppi ta tatcha tatcha, tara tajasto soch nabhayeka sabai jaat jaati ka byektiharu jasle manawi sabhyatako ali ali pani aansha aafno aama bua bata pako cha, tyesta byektiharu suddha dikdar hunchuparcha, samjh ganhayeko bhaan huncha.

Hola, bahun le kunai bela aru haruko faida uthaye hola, tara na ta mero bau le tyo faida kasaibata uthaye na unko bau le. Limbu ko gau ma hurkiye hamra bau haru, magar/Sherpa/Newar/yadav haru sanga ma hurkiyen, tero kurale ali dukkha lagyo, ta khushi ho yehi samjhera, tara hami kaha dekhi kaha aaipugdapani kasto sochai sochhau, kasto bhasha bolchau aajhaipani kati asahansheel chaun.. shayad Nepali hunu ko bidambana nai hola... jasto lagyo ra mattai reply gareko.

Khalisisi
Thulo aawaz

If u have a green card there is no problem at all just get married and bring her. If u don't want to rush into marriage u can also ask her to apply for fiancé visa

@manakamanamaiko jai

I am pretty sure fiance visa is only issued for citizens, and bringing here here with a green card only would take a long time, so the best bet would be to try and get her here with a F1 as suggested by sukla.

It would not be easy but it still is an option, a better one than let her stay there after getting married to wait for the green card.

@khalisisi : magar/Sherpa/Newar/yadav haru sanga ma hurkiyen,

ta ke bho? tiniharulaai bhote, jyaapu, madise bhandai hurkis holaa, tuppi thankaaudai.....  

 Listen to you heart sustasuman, listen what it says? I am sure your heart cannot be wrong. Good luck for you bro. 

 Thanks for more inputs guys....
But please dont argue ... esp sukla and khalisisi bros..
sukla bro bahaduri kasaile janmidai bokera aayeko hunna ra tyo padarsani ma ni rahera dekhaune kuro pani hoina... 
khalisisi bro kag le kan lagyo vandaima kag ko pachadi nadaudinus...
Hope you guys understand my point.

But today I got some Ideas..  I was really worried how to get her here. And I cant apply for fiance visa(thats only for citizens). But I never thought Student visa can be a good option.. 
But option of marrying is still open. Most probably I will go Nepal anytime between Aug to Oct. If I marry her in Oct can anybody suggest how long will it take her to be here in US (in terms of number of months) ? If it will take more than 6/7 month this might not help me as well because I want it ASAP. The more I wait wait = more pressure on her.

Once again thanks to each and every input...